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[-] ivanafterall@kbin.social 37 points 1 year ago

This is so very much me. I'm not missing your signals, I just ACTUALLY "hate playing games" like you claim to do and I'm already checked out.

[-] Bittersea@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I really appreciate when people announce what they hate, so I can expect exactly that from them. Really helps out with those social cues. "Yes, Brenda, we know you hate drama; sucks that it follows you around like a fart cloud. I'm sure it was the dog."

[-] littlebluespark@lemmy.world 34 points 1 year ago

Yes, ignoring something is sure to convey the much-needed lesson. A classic maneuver. Timeless. So effective. 🤌🏽

[-] feedmecontent@lemmy.world 42 points 1 year ago

People use this tactic against autistic people all the time so it's easy to see how it gets internalized. So many situations where it's like "Oh, they know what this means and Im not going to humor them by explaining it, so I'm just going to pretend they know what everything means." It's very tempting to flip. As a teenager I definitely said "use your words like an adult" to adults, especially the types that would pull that reverse bullshit themselves.

[-] Donkter@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago

Literally half of "social cues" are pretending not to acknowledge something and hoping that leaving it unsaid draws attention to it.

[-] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 year ago

The other half is ignoring something in order to not draw attention to it. An old book on manners said something like, one says "excuse me" for a burp, but if the gas emerges in the other direction, no one is to acknowledge it happened.

[-] littlebluespark@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Do you have a link to this irrefutable research?

[-] Donkter@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

I think, ironically, this is you missing a social cue. Namely implied hyperbole.

[-] littlebluespark@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Funny how quick one is to assume the neurotypical as so common it's the default. Well illustrated, stranger. I hope we all learned something. 🤗

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

How did they assume you are neurotypical?

[-] Donkter@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I think they were saying I assumed they were neurotypical when I first responded. Which, fair, most people are.

[-] MECHAGIC@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Me when people start pointing to show me where something is. Stop pointing, actually tell me where it is

[-] echodot@feddit.uk 5 points 1 year ago

Just sniff that hand when they start pointing. That's what my dog does.

[-] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 9 points 1 year ago
[-] edgemaster72@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

"Look in my eyes, I am the social norms now. Now stop looking me in the eyes."

[-] nifty@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

When I get belligerent, social cues be damned! Though I have issues telling the right thing to do. I’ve gotten better at this overtime, but it’s not hard for people to sus me out as a non-normie.

[-] Amro@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

@Mandarbmax That is not a social cue. You just shat in your hand and are waving with it now. Stop it.

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