[-] dandelion 63 points 5 months ago

All dates should be formatted according to ISO 8601 standard (YYYY-MM-DD).

Months should be adjusted so September, October, November, and December are the 7th, 8th, 9th, and 10th month respectively (so the literally meaning of the names accords with their actual meaning).

Not cleaning your kitchen knife after sharpening is trashy and contaminates your food with metal shavings.

[-] dandelion 68 points 5 months ago

yes, she's involved in the production and will definitely profit from it

[-] dandelion 67 points 6 months ago

they're no longer following the Constitution, in case anyone has noticed ...

[-] dandelion 63 points 6 months ago

Meaning there isn't an instance for women, nor are there multiple communities - as far as I know there's just this one community.

[-] dandelion 73 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Trans bathroom bans are ultimately just a means of driving trans people from public life entirely.

This is not an exaggeration, the anti-trans movement literally aims to "eradicate [trans people] from public life entirely", those are their words.

Here are some citations, numbers, and evidence to back up what you're saying and why we should view trans bathroom bans as genocidal rather than about safety, like anti-trans activists claim:

When laws permit transgender people to access sex-segregated spaces in accordance with their gender identities, crime rates do not increase. There is no association between trans-inclusive policies and more crime. As one of us wrote in a recent paper, this is likely because, just like cisgender folks, “transgender people use locker rooms and restrooms to change clothes and go to the bathroom,” not for sexual gratification or predatory reasons.

Conversely, when trans people are forced by law to use sex-segregated spaces that align with the sex assigned to them at birth instead of their gender identity, two important facts should be noted.

First, no studies show that violent crime rates against cisgender women and girls in such spaces decrease. In other words, cisgender women and girls are no safer than they would be in the absence of anti-trans laws. Certainly, the possibility exists that a cisgender man might pose as a woman to go into certain spaces under false pretenses. But that same possibility remains regardless of whether transgender people are lawfully permitted in those spaces.

Second, trans people are significantly more likely to be victimized in sex-segregated spaces than are cisgender people. For instance, while incarcerated in facilities designated for men, trans women are nine to 13 times as likely to be sexually assaulted as the men with whom they are boarded.

...

In society at large, between 84% and 90% of all crimes of sexual violence are perpetrated by someone the victim knows, not a stranger lurking in the shadows – or the showers or restroom stalls. But trans and nonbinary people feel very unsafe in bathrooms and locker rooms, though others experience relative safety there. In fact, the largest study of its kind found that upward of 75% of trans men and 64% of trans women reported that they routinely avoid public restrooms to minimize their chances of being harassed or assaulted.

from: https://theconversation.com/baseless-anti-trans-claims-fuel-adoption-of-harmful-laws-two-criminologists-explain-206570

These laws aren't designed to protect cis women, they are designed to police gender (this impacts cis people too!) and eliminate trans people.

[-] dandelion 69 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Relevant facts:

  • she self identifies as a "moderate conservative", also identifying as a "centrist" who cares about "family values"
  • she is a devout Catholic
  • she lives in Illinois and traveled to Florida just to do this
  • before going to Florida, she sent letters to lawmakers stating her intention to break the law, including when and where she would and a photo of herself (police were thus posted at the location and time she indicated, hence why she was arrested)
  • she explicitly identifies as not a "political activist"
  • she is breaking the law because she thinks it is wrong (she is engaging in civil disobedience), though she did not expect to actually be arrested
  • she didn't consult any legal or advocacy groups before doing this
  • she was arrested upon going into the restroom and washing her hands, after cops posted at the bathroom told her not to; she was held in the men's ward of the Leon County Detention Facility overnight, and she faces 60 days of incarceration if convicted
  • she is back in Illinois but will have to fly back to Florida for hearings
  • she didn't expect to be arrested and regrets doing it

source: Tampa Bay Times (archive.ph link)

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new contrapoints just dropped

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they're not even half frosted anymore

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I'm always wanting to learn and I don't feel qualified to actually share tips, but here were a few things I wish I had known earlier:

  • when my mascara was drying out, I went too long before learning I could spray a little sterile saline on the brush (shaking off any excess drips of saline), and put the brush back into the bottle and work the brush a bit - then it would apply to the lashes perfectly without clumps (I've enjoyed mascaras like Mineral Fusion and Better Than Sex).
  • lash curlers are a life changer, I have long lashes but they're heavy and droop down, and I thought it was a mistake with how I was applying the mascara (and the mascara weighed them down even more!!); maybe this is just obvious, but I went too long without using one and they really lift my eyes, even just the curler without the mascara is a big help
  • foundation can really age you, so it's important to prioritize skin care and "natural beauty". It really sucks when my skin is breaking out and I have to cover up with foundation because it ruins the natural, soft look of my skin; I wash my face every night with a cleanser (occasionally using a more exfoliating salicylic acid cleanser on my nose) and use a night cream with ceramides. Hydrating throughout the day is also important to healthy skin. (As is diet, tbh.)
  • I had no idea that cosmetic sunscreens existed, I wish I had known there were sunscreens that didn't feel like covering my face in grease, I've gone without sunscreen for decades because I had no idea. Discovering Japanese and South Korean sunscreens that function as a makeup primer, and aren't greasy and absorb into the skin, completely blew my mind and made it so much easier for me to put sunscreen on every day. I have really enjoyed CANMAKE's Mermaid Skin Gel and SKIN1004's Madagascar Centella sunscreens in particular.

What beauty and makeup tips did you wish you knew earlier?

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submitted 8 months ago by dandelion to c/intersex

Was reading the rules and they said that anyone that is a victim of intersexism can identify as intersex, and I just wonder what intersexism is exactly and how it would differ from, for example, stigma against trans people who appear with ambiguous or mixed gender.

I assume intersexism is something more narrow than merely the way anyone with ambiguous or mixed gender traits might be mistreated in society.

Just wondering if there is a book or article I should read to learn more, basically.

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Last night I had a dream where I was socially interacting as male, had male anatomy, etc. - it usually disturbs me when I wake up and realize my unconscious is operating this way, it feels like I don't see myself as a woman, which is true on a conscious level but it's painful when I don't even see myself as a woman in my dreams.

Sometimes even before transition trans women see themselves as women in their dreams, and I marvel at that. I think part of my denial was integrating every internal part of me that felt female as being actually authentically male, that all men are actually feminine in this way or that. So the authentically feminine parts of me still feel "male".

Anyway, I just wanted to do a quick poll and see:

(if any transmasc folks or enbies are reading this, I would love your input too, even though I'm using gendered language, I don't mean to be excluding)

  • did you have dreams where you were a woman before you transitioned?
  • what was the process like of your internal concept changing as you transitioned?
  • when did you start appearing as a woman in your dreams post-transition? (did the frequency increase post-transition, what was that change like?)
  • how do you relate to your self-conception, does it disturb you to be a man in your dreams, is it a relief to be a woman in your dreams?
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Polenta and mushrooms in wine sauce, loosely based on this recipe: https://www.rabbitandwolves.com/vegan-creamy-polenta-red-wine-mushrooms/

I felt like mushrooms were not sufficient, so I added tofu (which was too soft, I think maybe soy curls would have been better?). Also didn't have red wine, so I used white wine + red wine vinegar + raisins blended in water to replace the red wine, lol.

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this was a quick and dirty mac and cheez, normally I would make the cheese from scratch but this time I used some store-bought stuff because I didn't have much time

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"beef" topped, filling is more "beef" and refried beans.

cheez is made with carrot, potato, cashews, nutritional yeast, white miso, and Sherry vinegar

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[-] dandelion 61 points 9 months ago

How would people who live outside of Europe know what Europeans are not ready to hear? As someone who lives in the U.S. I know only a couple of people IRL who live in Europe.

The thing my European friend was not ready to hear was that all his complaining about the social programs in his home country and the high taxes and so on comes across as entitled and spoiled. Because he's never lived without the benefits of a state that will provide healthcare and so on, he is free to complain about his privileges and glorify the U.S. as a place where individual citizens fill in the responsibilities that the government should fulfill. He sees this as an unmitigated good, because he thinks it means more civic engagement.

What he doesn't understand is that this results in most people falling through the cracks, and until he falls through one of those cracks himself it won't be real to him how bad it is to not be able to afford losing wages because you are sick or injured, or what it's like when you can't afford to see a doctor when you break a bone or get so sick you can't leave your house.

That said, I'm not sure every European needs to hear this, or that they're not ready to hear it - just this one person seemed to be a little delusional and to have idealized the U.S. as some kind of right-wing libertarian utopia.

[-] dandelion 62 points 9 months ago

I think the point of the joke might be more that an attempt to start a matrilineal naming scheme is foiled somewhat from the fact that the maiden name of the mother is derived from her father, i.e. you can't escape that the last names all come from patrilineal sources for generations.

[-] dandelion 61 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Navigating society and following etiquette and social norms doesn't invalidate being authentic. A straight man is going to interact with a woman differently than with a man, not only are the social expectations on how he interacts different, but how he internally feels in relationship to the person is different. As your friend suggested, being a man or a woman can make the difference between whether a romantic relationship is a possibility or not. Courting, flirting, etc. are authentic behaviors straight men will engage in with women that they won't do with men.

[-] dandelion 67 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I think the "left" they are talking about are more like tankies or at least socialists who lean towards authoritarianism.

I know some people in my local DSA who uncritically support the idea that Russia is incapable of imperialism and who probably would have supported Assad because they were an ally of Russia.

[-] dandelion 70 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

This article is written by James Hayton, a professor at a business school focused on "innovation" and "entrepreneurship", and who received funding from the Nuffield Foundation, founded by William Morris, one of the largest financiers of the British fascist movement.

Just to be clear about the ideological commitments of the author and his financiers. I would suggest taking this article with a lot of skepticism.

[-] dandelion 60 points 1 year ago

The only time I went without a costume as a kid was because I lived in a dysfunctional household and I was super stressed and didn't have enough time or support to plan a costume - so I threw on an oversized coat and went with my friends; some adults tried to give me trouble and refused me candy, and that was a bummer because I felt like I had failed ... anyway - I guess my point is that maybe some kids are being lazy or something, but you don't really know.

I personally would definitely give kids candy regardless, but I wish people would actually trick-or-treat where I live, it makes me so sad that nobody does.

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