Feelin very projected into a subspace rn /j

Hey I wasn't the first one in this thread to bring up kinks! So don't blame me for that. 😁

While we're on the subject of kinks... are we doing the "speak nerdy to me!" bit yet?

Thanks for sharing! Sad to hear the bar is so low and your community still can't get their shit together. When is the world going to learn it's the transphobic bigots we should be afraid of?!

Any amount of labels changing around is lilely a sign that the labels themselves are a shit representation (which, coincidentslly is also why there are so many of them). The entire point of this post was to give people some space to express the "ifs and buts" of their identities, which you've done a great job at.

Fun fact 1: English is pretty much the only language where the flesh-eating fruit is actually an apple.

Fun fact 2: In most languages "pine apples" are actually pinecones. Chew on that, nerds!

That's a nice take! It is indeed the absurdity of it all that probably does it. My comment was more of a shower thought inspired by this post than a direct reaction to it.

As you can probably tell from my choice of pronouns, I'm still figuring out what the concept of "being gay" even means to me. Though there's probably no point to doing so. Which only makes being called gay even funnier to me.

That, and of course the ridiculous concepts of what does and does not make you gay, that are going around. But that's part of the original joke.

Hey you, the world can be a scary place sometimes. People have varying degrees of social confidence, and there is no guarantee you'll have a set amount of it throughout time.

Having had my own experiences with losing self-esteem and having trouble making and holding onto friends I can at the very least assume to know what you're going through.

This place has been great so far, and it seems like people here aren't in it for the fame or the fake internet points. But I'm also a relatively new member of this specific community and I am definitely still getting familiar.

My advice to you would be to take things slow, but at the same time not to be afraid to seek out that human connection. From what I've seen, people here are definitely willing to open up to you or just mess around together. Keeping low expectations will probably help keep your feelings of any potential loss under control.

A lot of people gave convoluted answers in the comments

Hi, that's me! Sorry about that, didn't realise you were going to make a chart. 😅

Ah so there is research suggesting the bias is real! Interesting, thanks for the link! Now I'm even more curious what could cause the difference.

Pesky lemmings being persistent! :3

Honestly, I'm not sure if I'm missing anything I can't have by doing things differently. Guess it's mostly just a Schrödinger's gender identity situation. I might be happier after socially transitioning. I might be happier after medically transitioning. The only way to know for sure is to experience, and taking the plunge on any of this is scary for multiple reasons.

I'm willing to bet I'm not the only one in this "quantum trans superposition state", so I guess I'll just hang around here and read about some of your experiences.

I know for sure that I don't fit the template for someone born male, and I have known to varying degrees since I was eight years old. I have thought about transitioning before and the idea of it feels more comfortable to me than it probably does for most cis people. It's just that I'm being careful with decisions that might leave lasting effects (both socially and mentally) until I'm more sure they will make my life better.

Appreciate you taking the time to pick my brain about this stuff!

Oh yeah thankfully I live in a very safe and tolerant country, so no worries there. Though you have conservative nutjobs everywhere.

The anxiety probably stems more from the thought of being perceived as unpredictable than from the way people might view the identity itself. Which is probably why it feels like I should have it figured out.

Then there's also the part where the sooner you have it figured out, the longer you get to live as your true self... maybe? How does one definitively crack an egg?

ADHD is both a superpower and a curse at the same time.

Members of the squirrel gang tend have the incredible ability to hyper focus on a specific thing for hours without stopping, but they're also able to forget where they put their phone just a minute ago.

And the joke the universe has played on them is that you have little choice in the matter. Also the mind can be a frightening and exhausting place to someone with ADHD. But when the stars align, you can do incredible things.

Always remember it's not that you aren't well adjusted to the world at large, it's just that the world is not adjusted to people with ADHD, and that's their loss.

Starting new side projects.

Finishing them turns out to be more difficult however.

See, I always imagined Aussies as redneck brits, but somehow more approachable and friendly. But as they are quite literally on the other side of the world, I haven't interacted with enough Aussies to confirm or deny such prejudice.

You guys really as friendly as my imagination suggests?