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I will be turning 30th in the next two months. Not really upset or scared about aging, but Im starting to feel down on myself when my wife, mom and dad ask about what I want for a party.

My wife turned 30 a few months ago and we rented a community center room for a few hours, fed everyone there dinner, hung out and then went out for drinks. That was pretty fine, but I'm dreading my own party.

I've lost contact with most of my friends over the last few years, but I try to not let it bother me. I'll check in with 2 buddies once or twice a year to make sure they are ok and that's pretty much it.

I am starting to feel like a loser for not having any friends though. I understand people don't have as much time for friends as they get older, but after my 21st sucked, I tried to set a goal of making my 30th better with people I want to be around. Flash forward 9 years and I have no one to invite besides my immediate family and in laws

I'm trying not to say "truthfully I don't care" as I wouldn't make this post if it was true, but I'm leaning that way. Both of my parents just did their 50th and was a huge party both times. My wife had a bunch of people at hers. I am feeling like a loser having no one to ask, and like I'm going to poach my wife's friend group if I want to fill the roster.

It's such a weird feeling. I already feel exhausted keeping up with the small group of people I do talk too, but also feel like I failed because of some arbitrary rules/goal I set for myself 9 years ago. I am more than happy with my current life and this really never bothers me besides "landmark" life events. Last time I felt like this was planning my bachelor party when I realized I had no one to do anything with, but just took a weekend trip by myself to walk around a state park for a day or two.

Sorry for the rambling, I just feel off/weird about this whole thing. I don't really ever feel the need for more friends, but when I have to do milestone events, I realize I'm really lacking in that area. Anyone else in the same boat or was like this before?

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Just finished up signing all the papers for my grandpa's will this weekend and this popped into my head. Grandpa is leaving me everything because he knows I'm a decent enough human to take care of my untrustworthy mom, and I can't stop listening to this now. Sorry for the feels dump, just crazy how different this song sounded to me 20 years ago, and the responsibilities I'm getting now that I didn't think I would have to worry about for awhile. TMBG are truly incredible artist that grow with you

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 51 points 3 months ago

Why do we need a seat when we can just Crazy Frog it

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 56 points 3 months ago

Not trying to downplay their situation, but the craziest part to me is the boss is actually competent and knowledgeable of their environment.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 24 points 3 months ago

Still works tbh

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I just got a RG353v and a friend at work has a modded switch. We were planning on playing games at lunch and I am looking for recommendations. We are both fans of 4-5th gen and will probably play those the most. Any genre of game is fine, co op or competitive is fine too. So far we have windjammers as a go to but I want to dig deeper and get weird with it.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 202 points 3 months ago

Not my wallpapers!

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 32 points 4 months ago

Why is it usually DNS?

(Network outages at work today. Guess what it was?)

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I am currently in need of a lot of dental work. I have insurance but it is not the best, and I am looking for places that have affordable care. So far I found SLU, SIUE and STL Dental Center from AT Still.

I have a huge phobia of the dentist and was without insurance for awhile, but now that I started my new job I am looking for something affordable. Currently I know I will have to have 3/4 of my wisdom teeth removed from the last time I went 3 years ago, and am scared for my upper molars (both have been fractured to the inner half of the tooth, an one is starting to cause pain).

I have been putting it off due to lack of insurance, money and trauma related to dentistry/insurance as a child. I am trying to fix everything I have been ignoring the last decade of my life after getting insurance and back on my meds, but dentistry is one thing I'm horrified of due to the debt I know I will be in plus dumb stuff I started working through in therapy.

Does anyone have experience with the STL Dental Center, or one of the other dental schools?

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 23 points 5 months ago

For people who haven't played any version yet: the monologues are the best part of the game. I still say Stanley is the best walking sim due to the dialogue, but also has some fun stuff going on behind the scene if you want to have fun seeing how they made it work.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 32 points 6 months ago

Nuclear weapons ~~in space~~ are bad news for the entire planet

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I have a pax3 that is starting to show it's age. The battery is not holding it's charge that well and I'm sure the tech has improved a lot over the years. I was looking at a crafty or mighty+ but wanted to see if there was something else comparable for a little cheaper. I would like to keep it under 300, but can spend some more if it's worth it.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 30 points 8 months ago

Amazing what not having lead in your water can do

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world

I am currently running most of my stuff from an unraid box using spare parts I have. It seems like I am hitting my limit on it and just want to turn it into a NAS. Micro PCs/USFF are what I am planning on moving stuff to (probably a cluster of 2 for now but might expand later.). Just a few quick questions:

  1. Running arr services on a proxmox cluster to download to a device on the same network. I don't think there would be any problems but wanted to see what changes need to be done.

  2. Which micro PCs are you running? I am leaving towards HP prodesk or Lenovo 7xx/9xx series around 200 each. I don't really plan on getting more than 2-3 and don't run too many things, but would want enough overhead if I switch stuff over to home assistant and windows and Linux VMs if needed.

  3. Any best practices you recommend when starting a Proxmox cluster? I've learned over time it's best to set it up correctly than try to fix stuff when it's running. I wish I could coach myself from 7 years ago now. Would of saved a lot of headaches lol.

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

I have a Shield pro 2017 that is running really slow with a bunch of issues. The 9.0 update (ads on home screen one) killed performance and now it's slowly been getting worse. I was thinking of just reformatting but have been looking into debloat it as well ( https://florisse.nl/shield/). Anyone have any other tweaks they've done on these? I just use it as a client for Plex and YouTube mainly.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 61 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

The thumbnail and the title made me think of the basketball kid from The Boondocks basketball kid

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social to c/2007scape@lemmy.world

Hi everybody! Just trying to kick off some communication and get this community going.

So what have you been working on/grinding in game recently?

I am coming back from a pretty long break. Played a ton from 2016-21 with a few months here and there since. I got 99 cooking waiting out my 2 weeks at my last jobs and trying to just skill now, working to some afk money methods.

Been grinding rune dragons for some GP while I watch stuff before bed and have been WC and mining at work trying to get to redwoods and amethyst. I am hoping to get my QPC back soon then tackle raids again.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 22 points 9 months ago

Wasn't Bravo originally for performing arts? I thought it used to show theater productions and stuff like that.

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 31 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I know it's been easy to dunk on the COD series for almost a decade now, but what made this one different? I thought they had MTX for the last few games and the gameplay always seems to be the same as the annual sports games, but did it finally hit the wall where the majority of their fan base sees all the issues?

[-] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 22 points 11 months ago

Wow inflation has even hit the drug market. X and acid has doubled since the last time I did anything. Shrooms seemed to stay the same though

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I just had two people take my order in a drive thru. They alternated every question. First person welcomed me and asked what I wanted. The next person asked what size and drink I wanted. The first person came back on and asked if I wanted any cheese sauce then the second person came back on and told me the price. When I got up to the window the 2nd person was the one working the register. This happens from time to time at different places when I get lunch but I can't figure out why it is done.

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Good piercing shop? (midwest.social)

Hey, looking to get my nose pierced sometime in the next few weeks and I am pretty lost. Never had any tattoos or piercings but I want it done correctly. Is there any shops I should go to OR any shops I should avoid? It seems like it is a pretty simple process but I'm a body mod virgin and want to make sure it's done right.

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