Heyyyy!! I dig it, go grandpa! Glad that he's still kicking. Apologies. My family is the size of a peanut and never really had much in the way of _ anything =P! Really. And it's pretty non-traditional so I don't know much about you know stuff like this. But I have read a lot about wills and people being money hungry. And I hilariously think about god what was that one movie...I forgot it's name but that one Wes...oh - Grand Budapest Hotel. Isn't there a scene in it where a bunch of folks come out the woodwork looking for snips of cash? I'm not sure how all estates are settled, but I will say that if your mother is being inappropriate about her father's finances I'm glad that she's been superseded.

I'm sorry about your grandma though, it is rough and grandmas make the world go round so big hugs there. I said my peace on all of that, and it really just...ugh. You love em, even when they're long gone. Sounds like something's gone down but all things aside I think the high road is the one worth taking 9/10 times. Then sometimes you just gotta head into Russia and bomb up the joint. But all things aside, I hate passive aggressiveness (perhaps because I am aggressively aggressive) but that shit always rubs me the wrong way. It's like playing shitty chess, and and people are trying to subversively manipulate you instead of saying what they need. And you've got a wife - so you've got to know clear communication is necessary to keep a healthy relationship going. So at the end of the day I actually (personally) consider that shit abusive. Which...on my end kinda sucks =P! Cause I currently live in for sure one of the most passive aggressive states in America =P!

No worries about feels dumps, you gotta express yourself and you're SUPER allowed to. Hell I dump all over the joint, no worries! I think you're a bigger person for dumping because most people keep that shit in. I mean for each of us, how many people are just sneaking around peeking at shit and being little voyeurs. At least you're out here participating =P! You do you, you're doing good!

I have had the grace of being able to form a little micro-relationship with my last grandma and get some stories (as well as share some) which would otherwise be lost to time. Including some really eye opening things, which have been so...pleasing as a human to hear. I honestly - well the one thing I told my gal when I met her is that I want a relationship much akin to my grandparents. Because most folks come and go and bob and weave. The gay community isn't know for it's sticking power when it comes to relationships. And I was getting older and I just wanted a person to "span time with" (thank you Buffalo 66). And we've been together since for 10 years and shit has been all over the place but I am really thankful she bought in. Cause you gotta get someone to buy in, you can't force that kinda thing =P! And it has been such a lovely thing to have that kind of commitment and I really wish it for most folks (not all, but most) in a relationship because I don't think I'd trade this for anything. And while our branches of the tree might not be continuing onward after us it's been a blast just being able to be with someone you can laugh and reminisce with even after 10 freakin' years. I might not get that whole 50, but I hope I can get some solid time with the missus before one of us leaves this mortal coil.

That got me all in a feels kinda way. You put a dumb smile on my face, and I thank you (and your seemingly lovely grandfather) for that =)! Best of luck, and people who put money over family don't understand the meaning of life. Cheers!