“Welcome to gaslighting 101! Please take a syllabus from the pile you will [not] find by the door, which will [not] include your instructor’s contact information and office hours.”
It’s possible this particular admin is not an asshole, but yeah, this whole move is a big pile of hypocritical garbage.
I think they actually did put in fine print saying they could remove about a dozen different kinds of things, including insulting specific people. So this is an example of general restrictions on content creation in /place rather than specific anti-protest action. But it’s still an example of Reddit sucking. If they don’t want free expression, they shouldn’t market this as an opportunity for free expression.
Same. It might take a minute to curate for the specific news you want, but there are plenty of communities providing substantive news at least daily.
Wait, what? Target barely even had a Pride campaign this year. They started rolling it out early, then backpedaled so fast and so far that there was basically nothing in June. Certainly nothing that classified as “sexual” to a sane human being. Also, if they’re still claiming there was anything actually trans-body-friendly in children’s sizes, that is pure fiction. As a trans, queer person, I would give Target maybe a C- for LGBTQ+ - friendliness, and that’s giving them the benefit of the doubt. These scumbags are not only morally bankrupt, they’re barking up the wrong tree.
I see that you don't mean any offense, but this is an odd question as written. You're basically asking what an extremely large, diverse group of people thinks about an even larger, more diverse group of people, and there's no way to give an accurate answer. We have all kinds of thoughts about cishet people, some unkind, some sympathetic, and most of us have cishet friends and family members. I'd say that on average, LGBTQ+ people have a more negative opinion of cishet people than cishet people have of themselves, because, on average, cishet people do not understand LGBTQ+ people, and in some cases, actively hate us. It's hard not to think of cishet people as a group as, in some way, hostile, even though not every cishet person is in any way a threat. We can't tell which ones are going to hurt us, intentionally or otherwise, so we lean towards caution and distrust.
I personally trust cishet people as a group less than I used to, because I just see more and more disappointing things over time. But it's not a case of going from "I think cishet people are ok" to "I think cishet people are bad," it's a case of going from"I think cishet people are ok," full stop, to "I think cishet people are ok, but am I going to be disappointed again today?" And, to be clear, I don't get disappointed just because someone accidentally says something offensive, that happens all the time. I can usually tell when people mean well, and I know it's hard to get it right when you don't know what it feels like to be on the other side. I do get disappointed when someone says or does something that lets me know they would be happier if I didn't exist. That's very different from just saying something awkward out of ignorance, and it happens more than I like to acknowledge.
As for your second, more specific question, how LGBTQ+ people would view you in particular, I can't speak for anyone but myself. I think you seem nice, but you also seem to be missing one of the most important aspects of the distinction between cishet and not, which is that as a cishet person, you have the option of saying you don't care about gender and sexuality. No one is going to beat you up because you're cishet, and you can go about your business without ever worrying about it. As a trans, queer person, I don't have that option. Someone might beat me up because I'm trans and queer, and it doesn't matter that I don't think it's a big deal. Other people do think it's a big deal, and they can make it a big deal for me in the worst possible way. I have to worry about how cishet people see me, while they don't have to worry about how I see them. They outnumber me, and are more likely to be in positions of power than LGBTQ+ people, so they are more likely to make trouble for me than vice versa.
... except in explicitly queer spaces. In those spaces, LGBTQ+ people will usually outnumber cishet people, and if cishet people come in and give us grief, we can push back. Some of us can't push back anywhere else, and it can make a big difference to have literally any space where it's okay to tell someone to go be cishet somewhere else, politely or otherwise. Any cishet person will eventually be told something like that if they spend a lot of time in LGBTQ+ spaces, usually not because they are bad people, or even because they did anything wrong, but just because we are really tired of having to put up with people who don't understand. If it happens to you, just remind yourself that the person yelling at you had probably gotten to the point where they were like, "if I hear one more straight person talk about their gay friend as a reason why they don't have to remember my pronouns, so help me..." (Yes, it's a little like "I have a black friend," but there's a difference between mentioning that as your experience, which is what you did, and using it as an excuse for bad behavior, which you are not. But being friends with people who are queer or trans just gives you information about those people, not queer or trans people in general, so be careful about drawing conclusions).
I see a lot of cishet people in queer spaces absolutely lose their minds over getting yelled at by queer people, because they're sure what they did wasn't bad enough to justify the amount of yelling, and that always makes it worse. In general, if you get a response online that seems totally disproportionate to what you actually said or did, the response isn't about you, and you don't need to take it personally. You have the option of trying to clarify what actually happened, or of walking away, and the latter is often better for the well-being of all concerned.
And that brings me to the answer to your last question, about what attitude you should have going into queer spaces. I'd recommend going in with the idea that it's not about you, whatever you find, and however you're treated. You'll be more welcome in some queer spaces than others, and also, at some times more than others. There's nothing you can do to avoid that, although you can and should try to figure out what is most likely to upset people. You don't need to understand why a particular thing upsets people, and you won't be expected to understand or to get everything right, but you will be expected to apologize for something you didn't mean to do. Some things are going to upset people no matter how good your intentions are, and you can't control that, either.
Based on what other people are saying, you'll probably be welcome here, and everything will be fine, and possibly I am a pessimistic old grouch who should go back to living under my bridge (lol). I have plenty of time for cishet people, even though I am an old grouch, and I hope you have only good experiences here. But maybe it'll help you at some point to be aware of the grouchier side of the coin.
Agreed. Smashing the patriarchy should not involve restrictions on skirt spinning.
I personally wouldn't try to work with Reddit, if I were a developer, but another factor here is that walking away from a project might be a big risk for someone who doesn't have a backup plan. Christian Selig is a high-profile figure who can afford to walk away from a project. He will be able to rebuild his career quickly and easily, and he knows it. The developer of Infinity likely doesn't have as many opportunities, and may also not feel comfortable taking that risk. I don't know much about her, but if she's not making a whole lot as is, she may legitimately not be able to afford going without an income source for weeks or months. It may be less about making a profit by doing this than about avoiding a catastrophic loss. Selig has admitted he's going to be losing a six-figure amount of money ($250,000, iirc) from shutting down after selling year-long subscriptions. I suspect everyone who has or had a Reddit app looking for alternative income sources, but I don't blame her for trying to make Infinity work for a little while longer.
That would be an intelligent step to take, but since when has Reddit ever been able to implement new, user-friendly features? There have probably been plenty of employees who have recommended good features over the years, wherever they got the ideas, and been shot down. With Huffman throwing a hissy fit the way he is, I would say they're even less likely to successfully bring out new features than they have been in the past.
Thanks for the link, that article is delightfully savage. I laughed so hard my cat came over to check if I was dying.
Same, their coverage has made me feel way less terrible about all of this. Just knowing someone is out there calling Reddit on their BS makes it easier for me to accept that Reddit is no longer a safe place for me and move on.
Thank you for your hard work, and for keeping us updated on the situation.