no nagging for a week
Wow, there’s just so much to unpack from just that sentence, let alone the chart.
Unfortunately, women tend to want partners, men want caregivers. Reminding him to care for his kids because he doesn't recognize how children as his responsibility is now a women's personality issue, rather than a man's personality issue. It's wild that a woman doing merely most of the care work and the full entirety of family organization from cleaning to meals has become something to look down on as a woman failing rather than men being irresponsible and not respecting their spouse.
You may be right in general, but none of that is a good excuse for a transactional sex life.
If I wanted to exchange services (labor) for sex, I could simply take the money earned from labor to purchase it from a prostitute. That is not what a marriage should be like.
Wow. What an incredibly sexist comment.
women tend to
I'm gonna stop you right there dawg
You are making a lot of sweeping generalizations that are wildly inaccurate. Some of those statements (hell, maybe all of them) may be true for certain socio-political subgroups of our society, but I absolutely do not agree that that’s the dynamic through which most heterosexual people view their partners (or more accurately, the idea of a partner).
You’re basically just regurgitating the “atomic family” ethos from back in the 1950s.
Reminding him to care for his kids
by treating him like a kid will not help. Yes, making clear that you expect him to share the care work with you is important. Making rules together can be a way of doing it, but he needs to do it because he is the dad and her partner and a reasonable adult that takes their responsibilities serious, not because he wants a BJ at the end of the week. They both need couple therapy, because he isn't a responsible adult and she infantilizes him on top.
“Get out of the dog house card” isn’t going to work the way either of them think. Pulling that card when you’re in the doghouse is not going to make her fine with whatever upset her. There’s a good chance she’ll say she’s “fine” because she doesn’t want to renege on her chart, but whatever conflict isn’t going to resolve itself because he gave her that card.
Trading sex for chores is gross. I don’t want a BJ or lap-dance from a partner that is only doing it because the sticker chart says she has to.
It’s also insane that things like washing dishes or packing lunches or changing diapers aren’t part of the baseline expectations for a dad. You don’t get an award for doing the bare minimum!
Both of these people are demonstrating the emotional intelligence of a block of cheese.
I was in a relationship with a controlling partner who made something very similar to this back in ~2016. I can't remember exactly what was on it, but there was definitely a sexual favor reward for some amount of chores (it was like I had to give her X hour-long full body massages or smth) 💀
It’s also insane that things like washing dishes or packing lunches or changing diapers aren’t part of the baseline expectations for a dad.
This is the one that gets me the most. Like, I do the majority of a lot of these things in addition to taking my kid to daycare, doing almost all of the cooking, etc. I do it because I want to help my family, not because I'm saving up for a toothy blowjob.
Love and affection are commodities to be turned into a transaction.
This guy capitalisms
I'm glad everyone finds it weird and gross, but I'm also amused at how many people don't know this is a five year old joke from a mommy blogger at this point.
Never actually real, just meant to make people who were currently dealing with sticker boards and feeling weird about it chuckle.
I'm appalled that you actually expect me to do research on memes and not accept them at face value. Leave my propaganda addled mind in peace dammit.
It honestly blows my mind how many people on Lemmy are completely incapable of interpreting sarcasm. I know Poe's Law and all that, but this is pretty clearly a joke.
We live in a post Trump presidency, post Covid mandates world. Nothing is pretty clearly a joke anymore.
Sure, she may have infantalized him to an embarrassing degree, but at least she posted it online so the entire world can see how unhealthy their marriage is and how transactional their sex live is.
Speak to your partner adult to adult? Nahh, I’ll just treat my husband like another child!
I know it’s rage bait but this shit does happen and it’s cringe as hell
The creepiest thing about that is how she wants her husband to be her child and still put his penis in her mouth. Fucked. Up.
I'd love to see him retaliate with a chart for her
[x] Stop being a cunt -> Stay Married
He realized after putting the seat down three times the nagging wasn't going to stop anyway.
Why you all kink shaming? Dudes a sub if I've ever seen one.
Dang I don't see it as kink shame just sad shit. Sex shouldn't be a transactional coin.
Back in my day we assumed everything on the internet was false, and we liked it.
Sorry dude but you are most definitely not Kenough.
Step 1: drink water
Step 2: piss
Step 3: put seat down
Step 4: repeat 5 more times
Step 5: wait till I'm nagged
Step 6: remind her of the toilet seat
Step 7: continue ignoring child's needs
Step 8: ignore feelings of depression and ruminate about how fucked my life is
are the straights ok?
do gays not give bjs after a certain amount of gold stars?
How exactly do the guys transact for sex with their spouses? Like, do they pick one who will withold sex from the other until chores are done? Or do they swap roles monthly? How do they decide which one will be the begger and which one will grudgingly submit to their clumsy, sweaty defilement?
Holy fucking shit his face...
This woman is the epitome of the scorecard partner.
He looks like a man who forgot that divorce is an option.
This image is a fractal of red flags. It's almost art.
"I won't donate your favourite put stained shirt"
What the fuck? One, it's a dick move to dispose of his stuff, and two, why are you donating garbage? Does she think the poor want to buy stained clothes? It's like that Seinfeld muffin bottom scene.
Just all of this is awful.
Edit: how far does the "get out of the dog house free" card go?
Wait, his kids made this?
naked hula dance by yours truly
I fukn hope not
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