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Nude sauna advice (self.ftm)
submitted 10 months ago by Kit to c/ftm
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I'm a transguy who transitioned in the 2000s and have had top surgery. I toured a gym that has a beautiful sauna, steam room, and hot tub that I'd like to join, but clothes are not permitted in any of the above. I'm worried about running into trouble if I go naked.

The gym is like a Jewish YMCA and is adamantly LGBTQ+ friendly and even has reminders in the locker room that the space welcomes everyone. I asked the girl giving the tour about my concerns and she said to just wear a towel if I'm not comfortable, but I'm still a bit uncertain.

Do any of you guys go to nude men-only areas? Any tips?

I'm sure I won't get assaulted because I'm a tough looking guy that most folks wouldn't fuck with, but I don't want to invite trouble.

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[-] synae@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 10 months ago

Cis guy here, so forgive me if I'm overstepping bounds.

I've never been comfortable in places like this, and choose to avoid them, even though logically I've got no reason to be concerned as some people might. But it just doesn't jive with me; I'm not that comfortable with my body.

So, I salute your bravery when approaching this situation, especially with the additional concerns that you mentioned. You've got more courage facing this than I do, that's for sure. I hope everything works out well for you! Cheers

[-] wizzor@sopuli.xyz 10 points 10 months ago

At least here in Finland there is an excemption that can be granted on medical grounds which allows people to wear their bathing suit in saunas. There is even a badge that can be sown on to signal this. I always imagined it was for this exact purpose.

Perhaps you could get a statement from your dr and discuss it with the venue?

I am a cis man, so I don't have any direct experience with this sort of thing though. Good luck!

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 10 months ago

Yop, Speaking as fake mtf,

So you my big boy, you are finally just scared about the reactions of others, but at this point, you have done enough to just go and to not get in trouble...with yourself. Finally what others will think just dont care about.

U did the harder part from my PoV.

How others react, remember, you don't care. That will not be the first time, and last time that you will be dissapoint by others reacts.

Just my POV and for nothing in the world at this moment I will expose my self nude to others in public.

So even what I think you don't care after all,

Go fuck this world before he fucks you.

[-] Kit 4 points 10 months ago

Thanks for the words of encouragement. What do you mean by "fake mtf" tho?

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

With pleasure, that's the true :),

In this context, I mean that I tell you to not be scared about others but take in consideration that I don't want to hurt you in case there is a misunderstanding and not truly legitimate to give u advices . I'm far away to live what you live I guess.

I'm not legitimate to really feel you and understand you, maybe. I have no trace of surgery on me, bc I didn't got one to transit as woman. For now, I'm just wearing some stuff inside and outside less, like a vest, sweats, maybe socks but no "lingeries (French)" at least not at work,, nailings, shaving , little make up/eye line, that the most will not notice, and removal hairs.
In fact, Things boys can do too in reality without a being a problem.

I'm happy that you see my words as encouragement. They are the really true. U did the harder from my POV.

And if I didn't touch the real subject, the real motion here, so pls sorry don't be offend and don't take my hurting words in considerations (bc I've tried to be humoristic in my answering ^^").

This c is first for FtM after all ;-).

That's what I meant ^^".

[-] will_steal_your_username 6 points 10 months ago

You don't need surgery or even hormones to be trans. If you feel like a lady then there isn't anything fake about that <3

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 months ago

🥰🥰

[-] FirstMajesticComet 3 points 10 months ago

Yeah I've said it before related to egging but it also works against accusations of faking or imposter syndrome (like this) too, the thing that defines gender identity is how the person identifies, not what they've done for affirmation, not what they desire, not even their reason for identifying if they even have one, just the fact they identify is what makes them that identity.

You can't really be faking an identity, just as your actions won't make you an egg. The gender (and gender modality) you identify as, what you do besides that has no effect. Also if you feel different about it later and identify as something else, that's completely fine and normal, it just means you might be some level of genderfluid.

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 10 months ago

Ive checked theses links, thanks, i keep. Thats a lot to digest again ^^". Its funny that you name the impostor syndrome bc this one block me a lot in my life x) in many aspect

❤️

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 10 months ago

Keep us to date when you did it :)

[-] Kit 5 points 10 months ago

Update: an employee of the establishment, who is transmasculine, reached out to let me know that it is not at all friendly to trans people despite advertising as such. I've chosen to not join and I let their management know why. I figure I'll give it a few years then try again, and will keep using Planet Fitness in the meantime.

[-] TGhost@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 months ago

Unfortunately there is a lot of false advertising in pour society and false hope.
I hope u will find one who is fitting you :-)

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