I had a similar experience with my first crush. He let me down easy and acted like my big brother. I hope he found happiness in life.
I was 15. He was 22. He bought me take away food, alcohol and cigarettes for my company.
A decade later, he was my bosses boss. And harassed me at work.
He came from a wealthy family where he was the golden child, people around town know about his tastes but no one has come forward. His family are in denial.
Some people are just pure evil.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you are in a better place now.
Working in academia I've had to explain to a lot of girls that older men flirting with them repeatedly isn't a normal thing and they should 100% report them to the proper channels if they felt uncomfortable. It sucks that even when there's any amount of support it's still so poorly communicated.
Dating as a guy in your early 20s is a fucking minefield. Now that I'm 30 it's better because nobody lies about being in their upper 20s or 30s, anyone who would be illegal is easy to spot because people under about 22 look like actual children to me now, and if absolutely needed it's easy enough to just take any new dating prospect to a bar and let the bartender card them.
But back in my early 20s none of that was true. Half the women on dating apps were lying about their age. Judging age visually between about 16 and 20 can get really fuzzy. Also people who were 20 were still in my age range so taking them to a bar to get carded doesn't work. Completely turned me off dating for a while.
if absolutely needed it’s easy enough to just take any new dating prospect to a bar and let the bartender card them.
FYI this is not allowed to be used as a defense in court in some states (e.g. mine). If you card them and they have a fake ID, you're still criminally culpable for anything untoward.
They break the law, they lie, and you get in trouble still?
Punishing people for sex that their imaginary friend wouldn't approve of is far more important than justice or fairness to most people.
It's not that blatant:
Ignorance or belief as to victim's age no defense
When, in this chapter, the criminality of conduct depends upon the victim's being below a certain specified age, ignorance of the age is no defense. Neither shall misrepresentation of age by such person nor a bona fide belief that such person is over the [...]
Best thing, though unfortunately not quite possible, would be to check each other's ID.
But that conversation wouldn't work.
You can be certain about each other’s age.
...unless they have a fake ID. Which in turn is not in any way a defense should you perform certain acts with them that are illegal due to age. You're just supposed to be able to sense the difference between someone slightly above and slightly below the line in your jurisdiction.
Wait, regular young people didn't used to ask for ID on dates? I guess I was just paranoid.
The problem with this strategy is you can still be prosecuted for statutory rape even if you relied on a fake ID.
I can confirm this is the case in my state.
Unforch, knowing someone's government name is disappointingly ineffective at preventing or remediating harm, in my experience.
FYI this is not allowed to be used as a defense in court in some states (e.g. mine). If you card them and they have a fake ID, you're still criminally culpable for anything untoward.
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted in a profoundly sick society
I just started running when it happened to me. Charges can’t catch you if you outrun the minor. In hindsight, it was the right move. I would not have communicated anything with any level of coherence in a state of dripping terror
I froze. I simultaneously was totally uninterested and also had no mental scripts for turning down attention from a girl when I was 19 and just sort of...mentally stalled out, like my brain just stalled out.
Right? It’s just a major surprise to suddenly be in crime territory with only careful conversation being a couth option
Tan white people Twitter?
The community name is a misnomer. The sidebar reads “We allow tweets from anyone”
I'm a white person. And I'm reading the tweet, so it fits!
So just name it people twitter lmao
Rude towards all the AI slop bots reading this
You must be viewing this in an app that doesn't show display names, because that is in fact the display name of this community
I'm white and I can read this twitter post. it works.
People tweeting stuff. We allow tweets from anyone.
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