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Really struggling lately. (lemmy.world)
submitted 1 week ago by MrJ199414@lemmy.world to c/mtf
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Just need to vent. I realized I was trans and I have been repressing it for awhile. I told myself I wanted to start hrt by the end of the year. But I have been struggling with health issues too. To the point that I may have to go on disability and everything feels hopeless. My living situation puts me into a position where I cannot be open about who I am. Plus I met someone who I thought was a really nice person. I just wanted to be friends but they love bombed me until I gave in. Which broke my self esteem all over again. Everything just feels like too much right now and I have spent the last two days in bed in the fetal position not moving at all.

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[-] sulfidedisburseangledafternoontipper@piefed.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 week ago

That's really hard. I'm sorry you're going through that. You're not alone though, I promise. Even if you're made to feel that way in a society/family/living situation that tells you to stay small and never change to make others comfortable, you've got a whole bunch of folks out here who are here for you, even if we haven't met and maybe never will. โค๏ธ

[-] MrJ199414@lemmy.world 1 points 6 days ago

I appreciate it. ๐Ÿ’œ It would definitely be helpful if my living situation wasn't tied to my job and my homophobic/transphobic boss. Been trying for months to find another job that I can even do with all my health problems.

[-] Domi 9 points 1 week ago

Keep talking about it. It's good that you posted here. It sounds really scary and stressful and I'm sorry you're going through it. Gender feelings are scary at the best of times, but they'll never get better by ignoring them. If this feels like a safe space for you then maybe here can be an outlet for those feelings rather than trying to stuff them away in a box.

One thing that might be a small ray of hope here: there are a very small number contraindications / comorbidities that actually would prevent you from safely using HRT. If you are struggling with your health, it's very unlikely that hrt will exacerbate that.

[-] MrJ199414@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

It has been hard. I have been trying to reach out to the few friends that I have but it is difficult to talk to some of them and the ones I do feel comfortable with are currently going through loss and trying to find a job. I don't like putting my problems on others. I wish I could afford to go back to weekly therapy sessions but between my meds, appointments, and a surgery next week... I'm just so overwhelmed. Been trying to get another job but I've been turned down hundreds of times at this point. I have severe Rheumatoid Arthritis, like to the point I couldn't walk, I've gained a bunch of weight. Plus the clinic I go to won't do gender affirming care.

[-] Domi 2 points 6 days ago

Thanks for responding. It's good that you're here talking. I know there's very little we can do to help you materially but we'll always be here to listen.

There are resources available for getting hormones the unofficial way too if you can't get a doctor to provide them for you.

[-] MrJ199414@lemmy.world 1 points 5 days ago

I really appreciate it ๐Ÿ’œ I've been bottling it up for a bit. It's nice being able to talk about it and knowing someone is listening.

[-] Domi 2 points 5 days ago

We're always in here. Sending love.

[-] tedd_deireadh@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

It's okay to stay in bed and be down in your feelings. Sometimes that's what you need. Give your body and mind time to relax and process things and come back to your problems when you're refreshed. It'll get better.

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