I found that saying something like "I'm gonna be a girl" instead of "I'm trans" makes it easier to avoid being put in a bucket with "those people" (whatever that means).
Maybe try softening him up for a while beforehand with positive news stories about trans people, and if he reacts with hate try to force him to justify the hate with personal experience instead of what he's been told to believe. If he can't back his anger up, then what's really going on?
If he's a Faux News devotee, then you're probably better off letting sleeping dogs lie.
Alternatively, I would not at all be surprised if he subconsciously suspects you are, and is afraid of what it might mean as far as how others will treat him if they find out. When you inform him, he'll have a choice to make which will be very telling - either he actually loves you enough to overcome his bias in order to preserve a relationship with you, or he doesn't care as much about you as he does himself - in which case there's nothing there for you to fear losing anyway.
Good idea. I have been trying to guage what his views are but its difficult since I dont think even he knows what they are. He recites transphobic misinformation one second and the next says the right are too mean about lgbt. And then after that I suspect he watches videos calling trans folk ugly or delusional (based on the reccomendations on the youtube on the tv).
He wont stop loving me, but I fear he'll just think me a freak :(. Which is unloving i suppose, but i would more see it as a twisted love.
I might mention more on trans issues to really see where he is
Good luck!
Please do whatever keeps you safe. If that means keeping your father ignorant until he figures it out himself: so be it.
Im sorry youre dealing with this ❤️❤️
Honestly my policy with people like this is tell them nothing and let them find out naturally, maybe a sprinkling of not hanging out with them as much
But this doesnt seem viable for your situation, so idrk. I hope it goes well, do get as much backup as you can. Hopefully your dad might change his tune when its his kid, or maybe he'll learn over time. Noone can know, but i hope for the best!
I will say that people being anti trans in my life stopped me from transitioning for years, and is a strong reason why i still get anxious in public and stuff like that. My advice is dont do that lol
Thanks for your response.
Its sad to say, but I didnt transition for a while because of my dad, at least partly.
Unfortuntely I think it is something I have to bring up directly, but I can delay it for a while.
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