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submitted 12 hours ago by minty@aussie.zone to c/mtf

Came out to my mum, but will need to at some point come out to my dad.

Problem is, my dad, is straight up chronically online and is transphobic. Maybe not quite michael knowles transphobic but he thinks the whole thing is ridiculous and is just a fetish.

I'm planning to come out to my brother (who definitely isnt transphobic) before hand, to get as much "backup" as possible. My mum is ok with it so i have backup there lol.

Im considering just not telling him until ive moved out, so that I dont have to put up with him but idk, thats probs far out (at least a year)

Help :(

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[-] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 9 points 11 hours ago

Good luck!

Please do whatever keeps you safe. If that means keeping your father ignorant until he figures it out himself: so be it.

this post was submitted on 26 Jun 2026
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