How do you stop second guessing yourself :3? Asking for myself
Stop thinking, probably. Perhaps you should become a puppygirl, like half of the femcel memes comm? They say that they don't think much.
Tbh I would stop thinking if I could. Though I feel more like a cat though, could stretch it to otter and red panda but not puppy.
Can confirm, am empty headed cat girl
Trans persons famously overthink everything, thats kinda half of the whole thing. Aint nothing to it but to do it
Yay, at least I am not alone with that.
Realize that you'll never hit 100% certainty until you come out and actually try it. I was like 99% certain when I finally worked up the courage, but that 1% was still really bothering. What got me over the edge was accepting that I need to take a leap of faith in coming out. I needed to accept my doubts and push past them, or I'd be paralyzed by fear forever.
I was at the lowest point in my life and had nothing to lose, which made that leap easier. However, I recommend against letting it get to that point. Coming out was the best decision I ever made; it made me finally see the world in color and live as an actual person for the first time. It'd be almost impossible to convince me that I was cis at this point, even if you had full control of my 5 senses and were poking around in my brain.
Thank you, it is good to hear that you have had this doubt but persevered. It gives me hope that I too can do this one day. I am just so afraid and don’t even know of what exactly.
Trust me, I was in the same boat. I knew that even if my parents and the people around me didn't get it, they would still try to understand and support me. It's scary having to rewrite so much of who you are and how you exist in the world, even when it will make you so much happier.
I thought about that a while now and I am not sure who actually in my life would support it besides my wife. I am sure it will create a proper rift in my family between those who do and those who don’t but I have no way of knowing who is going to be on which side.
Definitely come out to your wife first so she can help you identify who might be supportive. Both of you can bring up trans related topics in conversation as naturally as possible to see if anyone is supportive. Once you do find someone supportive, come out to them and recruit them to help you. Coming out to one or two people who are supportive initially will help you navigate things, turning a sudden event with possible backlash into something more manageable.
Oh sorry, I should have been clearer, my wife is in the know and is supportive. She has been invaluable in that regards but I know she is cis and technically straight only with a past curiosity about women.
Well, I figured that wanting to inject myself with estrogen probably wasn’t something most cis guys felt like doing. And especially now that I’m on hormones and don’t want to stop, it feels like a pretty good sign I’m doing something right
Cis people don't second guess it, they don't have to
gender is fake. i am myself and ill be however i wanna be. no one gets to police my appearance, behaviour or pronouns >:3
No regrets :3. Girl forever!
Girlmaxing! :3
Trans catgirl pipeline ftw! :3
I don't particularly like being a girl, but I don't think I would want to be a boy either. I’d like to be fully androgynous (not just NB). Is that an option?
You are what you are, understanding ourselves is difficult for some. For me, I went from 'I want' to 'I am' in steps. Some of those steps where feeling nothing (agender), to feeling girlish, to being almost certainly being a woman. And it all started (and stayed like that for a loooong time) with just a 'I would have wanted to be a woman instead of man'. From what I read you may be non-binary without really knowing how to express it, just give it time.
Yeah, maybe thats the case. Idk. I haven't given it a lot of direct thought, tbh. I’ve always had a curiosity about having male organs (masturbation seems a lot easier for one..), but I don't want to be a man and wouldn't be able to identify as one, certainly. My hobbies and interests tend to be things people associate with men, but I think it’s just stuff cool people are into in general.
The reason I say I’d like to be fully androgynous is that I'm ace/aro, which took me a solid chunk of my life and a great deal of misery to figure out, and just don't want sex organs or secondary sex characteristics (including all the hair, yuck) at all. I want to be the sex/genderless baseline generic human bodyprint that I feel like. I’m not using them (genuinely don’t think my vag even works anymore, haven't tried in years), don't need them, so don't really want them. Tried to get a hysterectomy so at least I wouldn't have to deal with anything related to that, but I'm healthy and have no offspring so they wont go for it.
Im not sure it rises to the level of dysphoria, though, more like a preference, and one nobody would likely take particularly seriously.
Tried to get a hysterectomy so at least I wouldn't have to deal with anything related to that, but I'm healthy and have no offspring so they wont go for it.
The cultural expectations around people "needing" to reproduce are so fucked.
You have to remember that you don't have to conform (but from what I read, you may already know that). I can only talk from my own experiences. While I may not be completly binary now, I was definitly agender before (I think because the dysphoria was preventing me from even thinking about being feminine). I never really liked the agender pronouns (my mother tongue has its own complications that english do not have), and was uncomfortable with expressing myself with a pronoun that is so recent that I never heard it used by anyone (saw it written though). On the opposite spectrum I saw people on tv expressing a strong imperative to make it known that they are agender (no pronoun was used though). We are all different but also there is no right way and we are all valid.
As for the dysphoria, it was for me the most ridiculous display of denial I could possibly display for so many years. From my teenage years to my forties, I felt a disgust for my face (mainly), yet I always said to myself this was a normal part of life, all that along with thinking I really wanted to be a woman. The denial was so strong that I could not put two and two together.
Now, the fact that that you actually tried to go for an hysteretomy demonstrate in my opinion a level of disgust that I would qualify as dysphoric (you want to erase you most caracteristic feminine attribute). I really understand that the obstacles may seem too strong for a benefit that may seem too hypothetic, but I think its worth to try again some time later (or elsewhere). It is also fine to live as you are if you are content as you are. So the real question to ask yourself is: are you ?
Sounds to me like you might be agender!
Jeez if only I wouldn't have to explain it to everyone and could always revert, I would def go through this
Gonna try that one day!
Just don't explain it and gaslight everyone into thinking that it's always been this way!
Lol, fair enough!
Me now? Me-ow!
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