I feel like accidentally commenting there is a Lemmy right of passage. It got me, and continues to almost get me. They generally have good discussion.
It managed to elude me, because the 1st post from this community I read had mod comment pinned. I was like "huh", checked, thought "neat" and moved on.
Yeah I messed up with that a couple times. I do read their comments though, it's nice to get the female perspective on things.
I got banned from that sub for "sounding like a man" then when I told them I'm non binary and so should be able to post their according to their rules they didn't respond
That sucks and I'm sorry. Did you dm the head mod? She's said her dms are finicky so @ing her would probably get a response.
They're not supposed to ban by default as far as I know, could have been an overzealous mod or a mistake. I get the same thing online, so I find it fucking infuriating to gender personality traits and tone. As an active poster on that sub I don't want to see things go that way.
Eh, I only ever see that community when a bait post makes it to the front page.
Honestly, I just assumed it was a really elaborate troll group and didn't bother engaging.
It is not 'an elaborate troll group'. Women just want our own spaces on a male-dominated platform and to discuss without 10000 incels crawling out of the woodwork.
And yet all you do is talk about men in that community in a disparaging way. You made an echo chamber and it's starting to smell like shit inside.
Fair play to you - it just comes off that way.
Each post that hits my feed makes me think "wow, sexism is alive and well". Glad to hear it isn't just all rage bait.
Honestly forgot about it, I just blocked it and haven't seen it talked about in a while.
suggestion: make a separate community that is "replies to womens stuff".
actually don't, sounds like a cesspool.
Much like the original.
Show us one of these "cesspool" threads, I've seen nothing but kindness there.
90% of it is a wholesome support group. 10% of it is "all men are rapists and anyone who disagrees is defending rapists."
That 10% is probably what they're talking about. I hide those threads every time they pop up in the everything feed, so I don't have one to link.
Also I pulled those numbers out of my ass, it's based on my own observations and I haven't really been looking that hard.
Turns out, a community exclusive to some gender almost inevitably turns into a hate pool, exactly because the most common scenario in which they are needed is "let's shit on someone and not let them defend themselves".
Naturally, those excluded find a way to get into the conversation to stand up for themselves. When men come together to spread hateful takes on women, this naturally puts women in a position to defend, respond, and possibly retaliate. The same works the other way around.
And honestly - it's how it should be. Those spreading hate and silencing all other voices should not be given platform for it. Let's remain constructive and keep the conversation going. Division and hate hurts and ends up gross for everyone.
"fancying the male im talking to" yeah suree.that was definitely a covo with a real person
I honestly don’t know what you’re offended by. Maybe I wasn’t reading closely enough, but could you spell it out for me?
He read the rules of the community and decided to break them anyway.
Right, the infuriating part is the man ignoring the rules despite clearly being aware of them
Why is bringing a comment from a woman in his life so bad? It might be a gray area but it's still from a woman which is what the point was.
I'm not arguing against the rule since I just blocked the community if I can't interact with it anyway, but it feels like that should be an interesting gray area discussion thing, though that's also just ignoring the femcels responding to him calling him a liar lol
Because he is not following the rules.
Maybe I believe in community rules too strictly.
If the rules say women only, it means women only.
Yeah, men should go to the back of that bus right?
Oh, poor poor oppressed men that aren't allowed anywhere on the internet!
I personally do not care, I usually do not want to go into communities/places where I'm not welcome. But disceiminating basing on gender, sex, sexuality, race, ideology, etc... usually frowned upon.
I just find that double standard quite pronounced.
I would agree with you but this is like being surrounded by men for 99% of the time all the time forever and then having a community that is not 99% men.
That said I don't fully agree with them, half the time it really is weirdos downplaying women's experiences, but the other half is a woman giving a story and ending it with something like "men are disgusting," and someone (not very nicely) replying "what do you mean men are disgusting??"
I wouldn't say that's a reasonable response, but definitely understandable, and I've seen it downplayed as an incel response pretty often
Ah, I was thinking it might just be that, but didn’t want to assume. Yeah, I don’t think it’s that big a deal. If the commenter came in and said some misogynistic shit, definitely, but just for commenting? Eh. Yeah, he shouldn’t have, but how much harm was actually done?
What he said is not bad, it's not about that, it's the fact that he read the rules and still thought that he had every right to participate. He's the reason the community was set up, to have a space where men don't interrupt and insert themselves into every conversation no matter what.
He said female. That's apparently the new n word
A female woman? In this economy?
To me it's a sign that someone is not really used to communicating with people irl or that they are trans-exlusionary. Both are a red flag...
It's literally language. If you use it as an adjective, it is literally how it's meant to be used:
"A female coworker" ✅
"A co-worker who is a woman" ✅
"A woman coworker" ⛔
"A co-worker who is a female" ⛔
You're just a misandrist masquerading as a feminist.
Edit: imagine being so much of a worthless misandrist that you downvote THE CORRECT USAGE OF LANGUAGE.
I understand what you mean but "not used to communicating with people irl" being a red flag is kinda sad. Some people are just not good at socializing or don't have many friends while also not being a bad person.
Please just go back to reddit
I thought the plural of Ferengi was Ferengi.
Ferengii, but the second i is silent.
I pray and hope that it's not a feminist community, but I would bet my ass that most of the women in that community ironically consider themselves feminists.
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