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Dude read the rules of woman only community and decided to post anyway
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I honestly don’t know what you’re offended by. Maybe I wasn’t reading closely enough, but could you spell it out for me?
Maybe I believe in community rules too strictly.
If the rules say women only, it means women only.
Ah, I was thinking it might just be that, but didn’t want to assume. Yeah, I don’t think it’s that big a deal. If the commenter came in and said some misogynistic shit, definitely, but just for commenting? Eh. Yeah, he shouldn’t have, but how much harm was actually done?
What he said is not bad, it's not about that, it's the fact that he read the rules and still thought that he had every right to participate. He's the reason the community was set up, to have a space where men don't interrupt and insert themselves into every conversation no matter what.
Yeah, men should go to the back of that bus right?
Oh, poor poor oppressed men that aren't allowed anywhere on the internet!
I personally do not care, I usually do not want to go into communities/places where I'm not welcome. But disceiminating basing on gender, sex, sexuality, race, ideology, etc... usually frowned upon.
I just find that double standard quite pronounced.
I would agree with you but this is like being surrounded by men for 99% of the time all the time forever and then having a community that is not 99% men.
That said I don't fully agree with them, half the time it really is weirdos downplaying women's experiences, but the other half is a woman giving a story and ending it with something like "men are disgusting," and someone (not very nicely) replying "what do you mean men are disgusting??"
I wouldn't say that's a reasonable response, but definitely understandable, and I've seen it downplayed as an incel response pretty often
The problem is not being allowed somewhere. Women are allowed pretty much everywhere, too.
What is inadequate is building what are essentially hate groups and not letting the opposite side defend themselves.
This turns to unnecessary and brutal radicalization that is antithetic to a productive change.
Sure, women are allowed pretty much everywhere, but it still doesn't mean that we are safe from harassment or that the spaces aren't extremely male-dominated. And if an oppressed group wanting their own space and complaining about their oppression is a hate group to you, look inwards.
I see where this is coming from, and from that angle, it might seem (and sometimes be) noble.
The problem arises when the oppressed group starts falsely lumping everyone outside the group into oppressors, which so often happens around gendered issues, among others. So many times I've seen women in such spaces lashing out at men at large and then bringing this mentality to the world outside the group.
"Men can't be discriminated against - they are oppressors" "Men are abusive by nature" "Men are unsafe to be around" "Men are the problem" "It is always men" "Sure, a man might just be a chill person, but he always carries privilege and is thereby part of the problem" "Men go through different socialization that breaks them and makes them abusive"
These are just few of the arguments I've seen in the wild, on several occasions.
To be clear: it's not by any means exclusive to women. There are plenty of examples of men grouping together on much the same grounds, spreading similar false narratives about women. And this is something that shouldn't happen, ever, under any premise. It erodes our ability to build bridges, to communicate, to find actual solutions - and to support each other, whatever the gender distribution of any given place is. And currently, Lemmy is certainly not the worst on the scale, even though it could fare better.
He read the rules of the community and decided to break them anyway.
Right, the infuriating part is the man ignoring the rules despite clearly being aware of them
Why is bringing a comment from a woman in his life so bad? It might be a gray area but it's still from a woman which is what the point was.
I'm not arguing against the rule since I just blocked the community if I can't interact with it anyway, but it feels like that should be an interesting gray area discussion thing, though that's also just ignoring the femcels responding to him calling him a liar lol
Because he is not following the rules.
it's hearsay; if you can't cross examine the testimony, it can't be presented as evidence.
He said female. That's apparently the new n word
A female woman? In this economy?
To me it's a sign that someone is not really used to communicating with people irl or that they are trans-exlusionary. Both are a red flag...
It's literally language. If you use it as an adjective, it is literally how it's meant to be used:
"A female coworker" ✅
"A co-worker who is a woman" ✅
"A woman coworker" ⛔
"A co-worker who is a female" ⛔
You're just a misandrist masquerading as a feminist.
Edit: imagine being so much of a worthless misandrist that you downvote THE CORRECT USAGE OF LANGUAGE.
I understand what you mean but "not used to communicating with people irl" being a red flag is kinda sad. Some people are just not good at socializing or don't have many friends while also not being a bad person.
Please just go back to reddit