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PLEASE CHECK THIS OUT. Our own Aeronmelon is going through some shit at the moment and could use some help. Check it out here and consider an upvote or a comment to push it into activity. Sorry, not something I do often or will be spamming. But I care about my friend and if I can get a couple more eyes on his situation then I'm going to try to do what I can. (Last one I promise. Just twice. Not going to spam but dude is a big part of the Lemmy community, especially with Trek, and he deserves the help. And to the mods, if this doesn't fit and you want to remove? Go for it. I completely understand it and I am sorry)

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[-] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 38 points 2 days ago

I actually believe in rehabilitation for pedophiles. This absolutely floors some people. Im sure some of you will not understand this post either.

Pedophiles do not deserve death.

That is not how we stop the problem. Pedophilia is a symptom of a more systemic issue and if these people have a massive fear of being lynched, guess what will not happen? They will not reach out to mental health professionals or crisis counsellors. Plenty of people have a specific form of OCD that pushes intrusive, unwanted, pedophilic thoughts into their head. Plenty are just ashamed and want to stop but have no one to speak to.

If someone has these thoughts and has not acted on them, I see no reason why they need to be killed other than you think too emotionally and not logically.

If you want to take this rhetoric you had better be willing to back it up and actually look at the "what if I actually took this stance rather than using it for a metaphor to platform my cause on?"

[-] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Okay but if I'm not talking about killing pedophiles, how will I virtue signal to the rest of my Klan?

And if we're actually stopping pedophilia, then why the hell did I bother having twenty kids?

-every american

[-] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 4 points 1 day ago

Good god is this frustrating to read lol

At least great example of teaching on OP's part. Calm, explanatory, respectful

[-] stray@pawb.social 47 points 2 days ago

I agree, but it's not only that. It's also that actual pedophiles are mentally ill people, and I don't think torturing them will help anyone. It's important to me to recognize that the reason I'm not a pedophile is because I'm lucky enough to have avoided that disorder, that it has nothing to do with any moral triumph on my part. I'm hopeful we'll one day have the technology to recognize these kinds of flaws and treat them before anyone gets hurt. In the mean time I think it's better to encourage them to be honest and seek help rather than demonize them, because abuse is more likely to occur if they aren't receiving treatment.

[-] Soulg@ani.social 14 points 2 days ago

Been saying this for a long time. Nobody chooses who or what they are attracted to, but they don't ever stop to think about the fact that these people aren't choosing to be into children.

[-] SailorFuzz@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

I can agree to the major stake on your claim about mental illness. And I'm sure that definitely exists and is a factor for a number of people...

However, you're dismissing two other major categories and groups of people: power and taboo.

Its been studied and reported that many rapes/sexual assault happen, not solely for sexual attraction/gratification but to dominate. To have power over another. Not a mental illness or attraction, just a want to exert power.

Another group would be those into the taboo. The exotic chaser types. The thrill is in doing something forbidden.

And when those two groups collide with someone who has a lot of money and live consequence free, you end up with Epstein. Rich people who want to do something forbidden, to exert sadistic power over others. Its not a mental illness, its not an attraction. Its because they can.

[-] stray@pawb.social 7 points 2 days ago

This is the context in which it's relevant to recognize that Jeffrey Epstein was not a pedophile by the actual definition of the word. He and his kind have something else wrong with them that you already recognized: they are sadistic and wish to exert power over others. I can't armchair diagnose them, but I do know that something is wrong with their brains to make them want to hurt people. A normal, healthy human exhibits empathy so strongly that it's even applied to members of other species and inanimate objects.

I don't mean that we need to have any sympathy for them or any other abusers, or that our disgust with them is wrong. But intellectually I think it's important to know the reason I don't hurt people for fun is because I don't want to in the first place. I could just as easily have ended up like them if I had fewer cooperative social instincts intact. We have to restrict their freedom for public safety, but actively punishing them for their flaws is as cruel and pointless as beating an aggressive dog.

[-] bampop@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I wish more of our society looked at it in such a rational way. The point of imprisonment should be either rehabilitation or removal from society. And we should be clear about what works in which cases. Permanent imprisonment should definitely be on the cards for some kinds of people, simply because they will never be fit to be let out. But people get this all muddled up with outrage, hatred, an emotional need for othering, punishment, justice, retribution. And then further muddled with the flip side of forgiveness, of having paid a debt to society, of rehabilitation through religion, of the kind of misplaced empathy that assumes we're all the same on the inside. Of course there's a whole bunch of political and financial incentives to maintain the confusion.

[-] stray@pawb.social 2 points 1 day ago

But people get this all muddled up with outrage, hatred, an emotional need for othering, punishment, justice, retribution.

It's understandable and a good thing that we have these feelings because they evolved to motivate us to be able to kill or expel bad actors from our social groups. Without those feelings we'd just be enabling everyone's abuse all the time. It's not like I don't get mental images of going all John Wick on bad guys. We just have to set aside our feelings and consider what results in the best societal outcomes, regardless of what seems fair or what would feel good in the moment.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 5 points 2 days ago

Didn't a study find that a good chunk of the population is sadistic? Something like 40% of subjects sverved to hit a turtle with their car iirc.

They went out of their way to hurt animals, I hope they get prostate cancer, and rot inside the prison that is their body.

[-] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

Now, what if a desire for power over others and the desire to engage in the forbidden (with no executive function to regulate it) were also due to mental illness?

[-] JackbyDev@programming.dev 52 points 2 days ago

A similar one I used to see a lot on Reddit was Europeans saying racism is bad except when it's against Romani people. Like people would unironically just say shit like "no, they're actually all bad."

[-] RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 27 points 2 days ago

Yeah I had a conversation with a redditor where they were all like "You don't understand what it's like to actually live near them" and it just made me feel like I was talking to Uncle Cletus about Dominicans or some shit. It's all the same mind virus everywhere.

[-] ThatGuy46475@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

Two groups of people I can’t stand: people who judge someone purely for where they’re from, and the Dutch.

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the I'm not racist but...

[-] Hyperrealism@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

A problem with those discussions is a lack of nuance and knowledge.

You'll get Americans, who'd hear some western Europeans complain about 'gypsies', assume they're racist against the Roma, not realising they're often talking about Irish travellers who aren't Roma at all. Not sure if the latter is racism, in the strictest sense. Invariably still bigotry though.

You'll get Eastern Europeans complaining about Roma like they're all the criminals, who are entirely oblivious to the fact that they themselves interact with Roma on regular basis without any issue. If you spend a bit of time in Eastern Europe, you'll soon realise that a lot of Roma pass as non-Roma. They often aren't considered Roma or don't openly call themselves Roma, so much so that some will even vote for a virulent racist like Orban.

Then there's the Western Europeans, who may have had bad experiences with a Roma gang (which unfortunately is a thing), who become incredibly defensive when you point out they shouldn't stereotype all Roma and end up pretending anti-Romani racism isn't a huge problem. Anti-Romani racism like when a member of Orban's Fidesz party comes out with statements calling Roma animals and describing them as a problem that needs to be solved by any means (I'm quoting almost literally).

In my experience, European racism and bigotry really is far more complex, due to the lack of a melting pot, especially outside larger cities. Far more intersectionality and added classism, nationalism, regionalism, etc. Sometimes people will hate you if you're from the wrong side of the river, and I'm only half joking.

I'm so tired of it, that once my parents die, I'll be moving to a large cosmopolitan city. Things are better there. Suppose that's not so different in the US.

Sorry for the long comment.

[-] Scubus@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago

Yeah, that always blew my mind. I guess it because Americans dont care to educate themselves on European culture, so Europeans just kinda have free reign to be racist and generally not be judged online as long as the Americans don't know ehat they're talking about. Thats just my guess though, im a stupid american who doesnt know european culture lol

[-] Hyperrealism@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

A lot of it is the language barrier. Your idiots speak English. Ours often don't or not well enough for you to understand their stupid comments. The idea that everyone in Europe speaks good english is a myth. Our idiots can often barely speak one language let alone two.

However, racism and bigotry in Europe is often different to US racism, so you can end up looking like a fool if you wade in to the discussion without knowing the details. There's no point arguing with pigeons anyway, you may win the argument, but you'll still end up with shit in your hair.

Also: even if you did have a phD in European bigotry, as an American you're not going to win hearts and minds lecturing non-Americans on racism, democracy or free speech. Especially now when the boil of American predjudice has been popped and poured into a seat behind the Resolute desk.

[-] hypna@lemmy.world 85 points 2 days ago

The easier case for this argument is terrorism. After it was established that terrorists were so awful that they didn't deserve the normal legal and human rights, and that the government deserved huge budgets and exceptions to it's normal restraints to get them, we now have any use of force that threatens the status quo being treated as terrorism.

Same principal, but easier for those who get really stuck on the pedophile thing.

[-] SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 days ago

A lot of gringos get stuck on the terrorism thing too :/

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[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 45 points 2 days ago

One of the most important questions you can ask yourself when you start thinking like this is: will further punishment help? Added bonus for actually looking up if it will, because it turns out there's research on it.

I don't want pedophiles to suffer nearly as much as I want them to not hurt children. And if not hurting children levels are the same I'd rather the justice system be fully and wholly dedicated to rehabilitation and taking the most possible care of its wards.

There's been an obsession in the past decade or two with crime and punishment and it's become bipartisan and terrifying. It's part of the fascistic milleu where there's a growing cruelty and "us vs them" thinking in all levels of society.

[-] absentbird@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago

There is a tragically high recidivism rate for sexual predators, which is probably the best argument for long sentences: there aren't many opportunities to abuse children in prison.

Though the American rehabilitation system is pretty weak in general, other nations have had much better results. Norway has a sex crime recidivism rate below 10% (vs 67% in the US).

[-] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago

So the solution still isn't punishment?

[-] absentbird@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

Yeah, the solution is to have a functioning rehabilitation system. But in the US, with the system we currently have, it doesn't seem to make a difference how long you keep them there. We actually have a higher recidivism from our rehabilitation than from doing nothing at all.

So, in order of effectiveness:

  1. Effective rehabilitation
  2. Nothing
  3. American prison system

The only benefit to a long sentence is that it reduces the number of years they can spend harming children, though there's a fairly high chance they abuse fellow inmates instead, who could then become abusers themselves once they get out, so the whole thing is fucked and stupid.

[-] sobchak@programming.dev 1 points 1 day ago

Punishment as deterrence has some validity too. But past a certain point, amping up the punishment isn't going deter any more people, and could interfere with rehabilitation. Most US sentences are well beyond that point though. Restorative justice is also important, but shouldn't put the perpetrator in anything like an indentured servitude situation where they'd be unable to support themselves.

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[-] QuantumTickle@lemmy.zip 57 points 2 days ago

I was leaving my grocery store when I saw a person calling for people to sign petitions. They had a variety of things to sign from lowering property taxes to "ensure pedophiles are jailed for at least 80% of their sentence length before opportunity of parole." Republicans at the time were throwing the word around in relation to the LGBTQ. The core idea of this post clicked so hard in my head I think my wife heard it.

[-] brygphilomena@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 2 days ago

I always feel like they are hurrying to get me to sign when I start actually reading everything it says. It's such emotional manipulation to get you to sign for something like the pedophiles should serve 80% of the sentence, but you read it and there is so much more about redefining what crimes are considered pedophilia.

Like, these are not simple 1 sentence things. Politics is not the simple solutions that people like to taut and quick and easy. Things need to be thought through thoroughly, written clearly, and extremely well defined.

I feel like the people who respond to "common sense solutions" are so unfathomably dumb not to realize that if it were so simple or easy it would have been done already. Or that it actually already exists and they just don't know about it.

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[-] olafurp@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago

Prisoner's rights are human rights too.

[-] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 2 days ago

No but see I dont consider prisoners human so its fine.

[-] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Dehumanizing people - it's not just for Nazis anymore!

[-] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well, scratch a liberal...

[-] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

Were trading slogans? Is cruelty the point?

[-] cassandrafatigue@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Usually. Down with the bourbons!

Edit: just the dynasty! We dont have to do anything to the other kind!

[-] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 day ago

The dynasty not the liquor. The liqour can stay.

[-] HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago

The bad crime is oppression of someone else. That's it. Anything else, rehabilitate. You willfully abuse and oppress someone from living their life? Dead.

I'm so tired of these ghouls getting off Scott free in the name of healing. I want them all to face justice.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 7 points 2 days ago

That would include like half my family and most of my co-workers. Chill a bit.

[-] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 4 points 2 days ago

Trump may not have committed any unique crime, but I think he should get a special punishment if he is ever brought to justice.

The evil people of this world need to know that they WILL get consequences for their crimes. They need to feel it, it needs to be so traumatic, that they beg others not to do it too.

[-] Revan343@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Trump doesn't need any special punishment; he needs the prescribed punishment for the treason of which he is guilty.

[-] hildegarde 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Only a court can determine guilt. Treason by definition in the US requires a court. He should have been charged with the many crimes he was accused of. But the us is a country without laws, as it was long before he took office.

[-] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago

Kira is evil, except for the killings I approve of. xD

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