So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?

So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.

But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....

I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.

Oh great another centralized repository of data about people (uploaded without their knowledge or consent in the case of the men) that definitely won't be abused by bad actors

Imagine if the genders were swapped in this situation

How did they not mention the 'hack' here?

Tea just suffered a massive data leak

Huh...

Part of these types of things generally seem like a well-intentioned idea, but it's also so creepy, scammy, and gross. This data won't stop here by any means, and will be sold or used in a million different even shittier ways. Pretty fucked.

Someone saw that Black Mirror episode and said “Let’s make that for real.”

This is fucked up.

Kinda wild that app stores allow something like that. I wonder how long it'll take for someone to build the same up, but with the roles reversed: Men anonymously talking about local women 😬

Back in the Google Glass days, I theorized that it wouldn’t be long before you could look at a person walking down the street and near instantaneously have a full profile of that individual, their age and address and family and everything, with Yelp-style reviews commenting on how the subject is a huge dick, or has a huge dick, or kicks puppies, etc. “Free”, of course, encumbered only by ads for bullshit dating services, and with just the minor inconvenience of full access to every goddamn piece of data on your phone.

I am only surprised that this kinda shit hasn’t happened much much earlier.

How is this not a stalking app?

Finally i have a way to explain my feeling about this. This is just yelp for people. Yet another attempt to rate people. Didn't Candance owebs try to make something like this years ago but for reporting racists?

This is psychotic.

There is no way this would get abused by threat actors and mentally unstable types!

If I was going to make something like this, it would have to incorporate trust chains. I don't care if some maga-hat says this lady is horrible. I care if my good friend Alex says she's horrible. One person's "this person won't shut up about communism" is a big red flag (no pun intended) but for someone else that's the dream.

When you sign up, you'd need to be referred to someone or be a root node. Anyone connected to you can be weighted differently. If some section of the tree is misbehaving, prune it.

But that's a lot of work

Some salty content here for no reason.

Nobody is writing about you, misogynists of Lemmy, because nobody is dating you.

There is a video in the article, where a a woman says "are we dating the same guy?". Like women don't date multiple men.

Apart form that, things never say secret, soon or later will come out.

This kind of thing has been done before.

For example:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DontDateHimGirl.com

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lulu_(app)

Friendly reminder that Facebook started as FaceMash, an app for men at Harvard to rate the attractiveness of women.

Both are bad. At least these women are nominally using it for safety and not just looks rating.

Finally, I would be really darn cautious of using any app like FaceMash or Tea. Seems like a great way to get sued for defamation. Or to become the target of escalated behavior of one of the bad ones.

Thank God we have the GDPR in Europe.

What a weird place some societies have come to.

"What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

Clubs? Are we in the 90ies?