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[-] DontTreadOnBigfoot@lemmy.world 76 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I find it very useful to have my wife's full name in my contacts.

We are involved in a lot of community organizations, and it makes it super easy to just share her contact card with people.

[-] Dicska@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

Now that you mention, maybe my brother shouldn't have saved his fiancé as "Suspected Spam". Weird to share.

My friend's daughter has her as "Spawn Point"

[-] onnekas@sopuli.xyz 17 points 3 days ago

My girlfriend saved me as "DO NOT PICK UP [my name] [my birthday] [my field of study]" The DO NOT PICK UP part is from a time when I didn't have a flatrate for calls and she had... but that was like 5 years ago.

[-] TachyonTele@piefed.social 2 points 2 days ago

Having your birthday in your name field is kind of sweet of her

[-] TachyonTele@piefed.social 40 points 4 days ago

That's a good thing. Means he never got rid of her as a contact, kept her since the first time they exchanged numbers!

I don't think I've ever updated anyone's name in my contacts lol My married friends are all still thier OG names.

[-] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I finally put my sister in law in my phone with our now shared last name just today, since she texted me on my first phone that didn't just use google's backup on all my contacts and I had to look the number on my old phone and add her to this one.

[-] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.world 21 points 4 days ago

I never update numbers. I realize when I see things like Danielle (Brothers name's gf).

He married her in 2019 and they have 2 kids now. Pretty safe to say I could have updated it. Just about every woman I know who got married and changed their last name, I never updated. I never delete numbers either, I don't actively talk to the 890 contacts in my phone, I may talk to 4. They just don't take up enough room to bother and who knows, maybe I go back to another town 10 years from now and call a random guy I remember. If we met up at bar it'd be like we had been hanging out the week before anyways.

[-] runner_g 8 points 4 days ago

My brother in law is still "[first name] sister's Boyfriend". They got married in 2013.

[-] cynar@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago

Fyi, if you're bad with names, I would HIGHLY recommend adding photos to your contacts, as you add them.

It helps hugely with putting names to faces. It also helps differentiate between people. E.g. When you have 5 marks in your phone, but can't remember the surname. Lastly, it helps when you are describing someone to someone else. Being able to easily pull up a photo of them simplifies things.

[-] Dicska@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

A relatively crappier version of this is to add them middle names. Brassica Walmart Kale might look weird if they see it, but it will help you remember that you know Brassica Kale from Walmart. For older compatibility reasons, I used to store helpful middle names starting with a period, so it's easier to search for them (so Brassica .Walmart Kale). Addig photos is a great idea, I don't do it often enough (as long as they let you take a photo).

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 3 days ago

people don't do this for family at least?

[-] Windex007@lemmy.world 34 points 4 days ago

"Wife #1"

Didn't take it well

[-] ceenote@lemmy.world 25 points 4 days ago

As long as you list the other one as "Wife A" so that neither feels inferior.

[-] edgemaster72@lemmy.world 25 points 4 days ago
[-] chatokun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 3 days ago

Or or, the fighting mongooses! That's a cool name!

[-] Windex007@lemmy.world 15 points 4 days ago

My rebuttal of "what, you wanna be #2" did nothing to ease the tension

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[-] blind3rdeye@lemm.ee 15 points 4 days ago

I was looking very carefully for a subtle spelling difference or something before realising that it is "bad" to use a person's name.

[-] sem 4 points 4 days ago

But it's not really bad, right?

... right?

[-] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 3 days ago

it's "bad" to have your spouse's contact name as their full name rather than "wife", it's the same thing as having your parent call you by your full name

[-] LilB0kChoy@midwest.social 5 points 3 days ago

Or it's security conscious. You know who your wife, mom, dad, siblings etc. all are but if they're saved in your phone that way and someone gets access to your contacts it's easier to, potentially, phish them because you can manipulate the relationship.

Otherwise they're just a bunch of names that don't mean much to anyone but you or people that know you.

[-] Halosheep@lemm.ee 4 points 3 days ago

I think most people's conversation with their wife would indicate their relationship anyway. Probably a pointless differentiation.

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[-] AA5B@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

It seems like the real difference might be how many people are on your contact list. When I only had a handful of friends and family I would also be informal. However at one point I synched a company directory and since then have been much more complete with my contact data so they are easier to find

[-] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago

Don't have a work phone?

You're in my phone as WORK XXXXX WORK

I know not to answer immediately.

[-] Zink@programming.dev 7 points 3 days ago

I see the humor in this, but I am also exactly the kind of nerd that has correct data fields for everybody from my wife to my grandma and nice and nephews. In a text conversation it’s usually just profile picture with first name under it.

I suspect I’m not the only one, considering the audience.

[-] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago

The only correct way to list your spouse in your phone

[-] FundMECFSResearch 15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I think that transcription is incorrect ;).

I think it’s pronounced more.

“MAAAAA WWWIIIIIIFFFFEEE”

[-] ndupont 11 points 4 days ago

Same here, never edited her contact in 15 years I think

[-] Frostbeard@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

I editet my wifes last name when we married. She wanted to change her name, necessitating the hassle for me to edit her contact information

[-] RvTV95XBeo@sh.itjust.works 6 points 3 days ago

Same! The lengths we go for the people we love...

[-] teolan@lemmy.world 16 points 4 days ago

I have two friends who have been a couple for 2 years and stiil both had each other's contacts as "name Japanese" because they met in a Japanese class.

[-] bleistift2@sopuli.xyz 11 points 4 days ago
[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 5 points 4 days ago

Lucy Tinder

Maggie Tinder

Renee Tinder

Christopher Tinder

Diana Tinder

[-] TachyonTele@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

It's a big family

[-] gaael 10 points 4 days ago

This is crazy. What kind of barbarian doesn't properly format contacts in a standardized and civilized way?!?

If he doesn't change it to "WORTMAN, Jennifer" very soon, that's ground for divorce.

[-] lemmyknow@lemmy.today 10 points 4 days ago

Why not just add name onto Name and surname onto Surname fields?

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[-] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 8 points 4 days ago

People do regular maintensnce on their contacts?

I just noticed i've got each name x3 (exports & imports) and some of them last used 15 years ago.

[-] gaael 5 points 4 days ago

I just lost a dozen blood vessels ^^

[-] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Should have at least a middle initial, if not full middle name. Never know, might meet another Jennifer Wortman one day and it would probably be best to have some way of differentiating between the two. So you don't accidentally schedule a sex appointment with the other one and end up in the awkward position of either needing to cheat on your wife or break an appointment with 0 notice.

[-] AA5B@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

Full name is useful for searching and sorting.

But where’s the obvious joke about the triplets?

[-] jcs@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

OPSEC. I have history disabled on my phone. If anyone were to somehow access it, they would have more difficulty figuring out who is close to me.

[-] Agent641@lemmy.world 15 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

OPSEC: My mum is listed in my phone by her maiden name. The contact "Mum" is actually the police emergency line.

Ransom this, shitass

What are you imagining here? Like someone steals your phone to find out who you are close to to then what kidnap them?

How can you live like this it sounds exhausting. Even if it’s the feds then they’ll contact the cell provider and get your call history.

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[-] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 7 points 4 days ago

I have my wife's full name in too. I don't even know why, I don't have any other contacts with the same first name.

[-] greenskye@lemmy.zip 5 points 4 days ago

My wife is in my phone as her real name, but only because that puts her at the top of the list in my favorites (her name starts with 'A')

[-] TachyonTele@piefed.social 1 points 2 days ago

Her real name huh
What's her secret identity name?

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