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Are you in this meme?
(lazysoci.al)
big yes from me
Me: "That's not ADHD, that's just being human!"
Her: "No, no, really, not."
Me: "What are you saying? I don't have ADHD."
Her: "You sure?"
Me: "Of course I'm sure."
Me: Joins lemmy.
Lemmy: Lots of ADHD memes.
Me: "Huh."
And yes, I thought I was the only really outgoing shy person I knew of, and I couldn't ever make sense of it.
I was like this. I was diagnosed at 28 years old, and now I'm 39. The last remnants of my extroverted tendencies are dying, though. I recently had two friends ghost me because of trauma influenced behavior that I was experiencing. People pretend they're tolerant of autism riiiiiiiight up until something genuinely difficult happens. Then you get to see how your "friendship" was based on a masked version of you and therefore completely fake.
Someone I thought I had a 20 year "friendship" with ghosted me with zero explanation after I moved 1600 miles across the country to live closer to. My extraverted tendencies cause more harm than the loneliness that comes with introversion. It's just not worth it.
ADHD and Autism require diagnosis.
So......not me.
It’s not hard to get a test you just need to grow yourself a money tree.
It’s not hard to get a test
Even if money isn't an issue, it's actually really hard (particularly for someone with ADHD symptoms) to take the official test. It's very Catch-22.
funny thing, I took my test in NZ where it's cheaper and easier apparently, still cost a couple of thousand $NZ but I was given a bunch of forms to fill in.. Found a quiet place to do them in time, read them and filled them in. then realised I'd not read them properly and had to request the forms be resent to complete a second time, this time body doubling with the misses to ensure I'd read and completed them appropriately.
felt like it was part of the test
can you read and fill in these forms by yourself? no, no I can't..
Nah, I'll just take a tiny hit of meth. It will either work or I'll have the whole place clean. Win win.
Apparently, wolf wizardry.
Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.
I used to call myself an introvert with extrovert tendacies and so ya, I'm in this meme lol.
This is probably because introvert and extrovert are just made up and there's no evidence anyone falls neatly into either.
What is extroverted introverted?
An extrovert with social anxiety.
This is my best friend to a T. Recently diagnosed with ADHD as well.
I swear I will get officially diagnosed and medicated this year. I know I've said it for about a decade, but this is the year, lol.
Best of luck!
There are dozens of us
It's a way of describing that a person is willing to join social interaction, but also enjoys alone time
Isn't that everyone, more or less? We all need a balance between spending time with others, and time by ourselves.
If I don't get an appropriate amount of both on a regular basis I go crazy.
Its just another weird way people who are not specialists try to divide and label everyone for no clear reason to fit into their binary world, I just don't like how its being used. There is too much simplification and generalization while every person is unique. Not saying such things as introvert/extravert should not exist, I just don't like how its being interpreted in mass/social media
Somewhat, but specifically a sociable person who ultimately needs alone time to recharge (or time just with their partner). Some people need social interaction as their recharge, and they might not be great in their own company for too long.
That's an ambivert
Ive always referred to myself as a social introvert. Ill go to social events, have fun, but boy is it exhausting and id rather spend time home alone doing nothing
There are a bunch of different definitions people use for introversion/extroversion. "Extroverted introvert" means you're extroverted by one definition and introverted by a different one.
I'm a huge introvert, but if I can get past the initial hurdle of getting my ass motivated to actually meet with people, I have a good time. I've also been in sales/public facing jobs for most of my working life, which blows people away when they realize how antisocial I can be. I mask very well.
Most of the time, it's how much juice is left in my social battery that dictates what I end up doing. I will avoid my best friends of 20+ years if I'm not in the mood.
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I avoid people at all cost, and for the special few that make it into my life, I just won't shut the fuck up 😭
It's a problem, every night my partner has to manage my chattiness, if allowed I will just pillow-talk until 2am.
but yeah, I'm not autistic.
Are those separate things or is there a connection?
Like:
I'm curious, how many "Hawaiian pizza eaters" found out they had adhd or autism later in life?
Yes, how you socialize and how much it drains you are affected by whether or not you’re autistic and/or ADHD.
People who are naturally outgoing but also autistic/ADHD have the same drive to go out and interact with people, but due to differences in how they act/perceive the world wind up much more drained from the experience (either from sensory overstimulation or anxiety from people being unpredictable). This often leads to seeking out socialization less, even though they are just as desperate for it as anyone else who is naturally more extroverted.
And instead of typing up a paragraph every time they want to talk about it, they say introverted extrovert.
...shut up. -.-
i am not but i very well might be if i ever let a pro check me out
I was diagnosed at 56 with ADHD and Autism. So many fuck ups of mine make sense now.
Kind of, I was always just introverted and finding out I had autism and unlearning the coping mechanisms I made from not knowing wtf was going on made me able to be more extraverted then before, at least briefly.
Me.
What a weird way to say ambivert.
I am in this, but I got tested and I'm "normal" even though in my 20s I'm pretty sure I would have been in the very high ranges.
I'd still say I have an ADHD brain with OCD tendencies, but I've managed to moderate both through a decade of exercise, caffeine, and sugar.
(Anecdotal, N=1) I think once your brain realizes in some sense that it can be productive despite its neuroses, the extremes peter out once the stress of your failures no longer hang over you.
These days I think of myself as extrovert but most people think the opposite. Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.
My cousin is certified extrovert. She basically always „needs“ someone to talk to on family gatherings. I think she’s fine being alone, but if there’s a person she will talk to them.
If there’s someone telling a story and she’s not too invested she will open a parallel conversation.
Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.
Well, absolutely not. I thought it's pretty obvious that this is more like a scale were you fall somewhere between one and the other. Also, those words don't really have any rigorous definitions.
Yes.
What is an extroverted introvert? As a youth I was introverted and its still my nature but I found I liked drama and being in a chorus and debate type things as I got older but Im still more likely and more than happy to quietly sit and read or mess with a device or be with my thoughts in a group setting and ill at ease meeting people.
ADHD for me but yeh
I got diagnosed with both later in life, but I am definitely more on the introverted side of things. Maybe an introvert leaning ambivert at most.
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