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Retroactive fear (beehaw.org)
submitted 4 days ago by apotheotic@beehaw.org to c/trans

A person I've shared circles with and considered a friend for years, today said the quiet part out loud and spouted transphobia.

I feel like I'm experiencing years of retroactive fear for my proximity to her all at once and its incredibly overwhelming.

If anyone has any good vibes to send my way I'd be so grateful.

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[-] roon 12 points 4 days ago

I'm sorry that you're experiencing this! It's completely normal to feel what you're feeling, and what you're going to feel about this relationship going forward.

Sending you the goodest of vibes! 💜

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 4 points 4 days ago

Thank you 💕

[-] OldEggNewTricks 9 points 4 days ago

Oh, that's a sucky betrayal and I feel for you. Have a virtual hug <3

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 5 points 4 days ago

Thank you <3

@apotheotic Your friend may not know they're being transphobic outright. However, on the flip side, if your friend does know, drop her like a bad habit and go no contact.

[-] apotheotic@beehaw.org 9 points 4 days ago

@Colette_Libertine@mastodon.social They do know, I brought it to their attention, and I've dropped contact yeah.

@apotheotic Good. When we come out, we find out who our friends are. Even some other trans people, unfortunately, give us a hard time.

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