Pretty easily.
I live my life and care about the people around me. I ignore things I can’t affect.
The sky is not falling. The ground is right here and things are generally OK for most people.
Pretty easily.
I live my life and care about the people around me. I ignore things I can’t affect.
The sky is not falling. The ground is right here and things are generally OK for most people.
It's kind of like trying to cope with the reality of death
I don't want to overstate this, but some liberation can come from within.
Yeah, we all have to play their game, but internalizing the values our sick society places on us is optional. Make peace with the things you alone cannot immediately change. Resist in the small ways you are able, find joy where you can, and do what you can for the people you care about. Free your mind and your ass will follow.
Just here trying to create an emotional and practical safe zone for myself, family, and my friends, and fuck the rest of 'em
So I went through a very dark place a few years back. Anxiety, depression and PTSD led me to the conclusion that "life is hard and always will be and that in the whole of human history we are all insignificant".
But with the help of a great therapist (and some meds) I was able to append "so I might as well have fun".
So I try to find joy wherever I can. So yes to doing things, fight my cynical side, make friends, dress weird, dance, party, be my (weird fun happy) self, allocate zero fucks to the haters and all to love to the people that matter.
I still fight the system where I can, but mostly by trying to make other's lives happier. Let the billionaires be rich miserable assholes, we're too busy dancing slutty to care.
Drugs, lots and lots of tender loving illigeal drugs
Smoke a lot of weed
Me and my family have been doing really well since we escaped the leftist venezuelan dictatorship.
Reading history books for greater context. Shit always finds a new flavor of fucked, apparently.
And drinking a boatload.
This can also backfire. It's frustrating to see history repeating itself so clearly over and over again, while being utterly powerless to really change it.
I refuse to have children in response to what I see with my own eyes. No thanks to my parents for making me exist.
Glad I'm not the only person who resents their parents for making them
I silently quit life. It's not going well.
Remember that the world used to be filled with feudalistic absolute-monarchist nations where the Emerperor/King always got away with doing immoral shit, and most people who worked for the monarch can fuck up your life with zero repercussions.
Today, at least sometimes the leaders can get punished.
South Korea just Impeached their president. And the president will likely get convicted and removed from office and go to prison, just as with one of the presidents before.
Brazil is now investigating their former President for an attempted coup.
The US isn't there yet, but at least we tried. Eventually, the president will be held accountable, maybe not in 10 years, but eventually we'll evolve out of this shit. The US had slavery, and got rid of it (for the most part). We had Jim Crow and got rid of that. It used to be only white male landowners could vote, and eventually Black Men, then Women, also got the right to vote. Progress happens even if it looks very slow.
Back then there was also no modern medicine, a small flu can kill you. If a family had 2 children in any country that's even slightly developed, both children likely survive. But before modern medicine, you need like 8 children and maybe 2 of them will survive.
Back then there were no entertainment on demand, if you are bored, you are just bored. Now we can just go on Youtube, Netflix or whatever and have a billion things to watch.
Back then, you didn't have a 40 hour work week, you were on a farm and had to constantly work. Any bad weather and crops died you're starving. Or if it post industrial revolution, you could be at a factory with way longer hours and much worse conditions than today.
People think "this is so bad" but it was way worse before.
I say "thank goodness I don't live in China, or worse." Then I go back to trying to improve my life.
China, while isn't great, isn't actually that bad, just look at North Korea, or Taliban controlled Afghanistan, and that's what bad really means.
Yeah I did say "or worse" but I clearly draw the line of superiority between capitalist hellholes and an actual fucking dictatorship.
Dreaming about becoming a billionaire?
projecting?
??
Lol because China doesn't have them, is that what you think?
Try really hard to ignore all evidence against the afterlife.
I wish so hard that I could believe. Just lie to myself forever, When you die it's not like you find out...
Preparing myself for the world Titor predicted. Small communities.
Learning to homestead as best I can as a renter. Lots of raised beds and planter bags.
I only buy things to support my hobbies. Saving up for land and a prefab home so I can go completely independent.
I don't want to worry if critical food gets expensive again.
Climate change is really fucking that idea up here in Scotland.
Our ecosystem relies on now non-existant snowy winters to reset the pest and fungus population every year, instead we get mild winters and summer that have no actual rain to water plants yet are so humid that everything is permamently damp, pests and fungi ramp up year on year and plants that used to grow fine here (Talking potatoes and even some native trees) are struggling. I'd say a full half of the non-confierous trees near my house have started dying in the last 2 years.
SERN will take over the world.
The Organization is on to me now.
El Psy Congroo
Tuturu!
I would have tried this so hard a long time ago but there is basically 2 things keeping me in the shackles: dentists & hospitals.
How do you deal with that?
Bite your doctors
With bad teeth? That won't work!
Now there is a name I haven’t heard in awhile.
I organize and build relationships in my community. Everyone has something to offer and something they need. It isn't always immediately obvious what those things are, so it's nice to have an existing network when you figure it out. Get together. Have potlucks. Share your skills, knowledge, tips, tricks and resources.
I doubt you actually do any of that. Lovely vague community esque language. Oh have a potluck and effect great societal change! Give me a break. Hapy olidays!
I mean, I can't prove it to you so you can just believe it or not. I definitely didn't mean to imply that I'm making some "great societal change". That's not an attainable goal. The question was about how I deal with the state of the world. For me, my anxiety was peaking in the early days of the pandemic and the political situation in the US. I was just doomscrolling all day. Finally I decided that I just needed to do something/anything. I contacted a local mutual aid group in my area and started helping distribute hot meals around my area. I did that for about 2 years, twice a week. I have gone on to do more organizing (food, politics, skill shares) with some of the people I met there, and have expanded my network of like-minded friends. It has helped my mental health immensely.
How dare you not wallow in cynical misery.
Underwork when I can, especially if I feel underpaid and under appreciated. Humanity is doomed to destroy itself, so I don’t worry all that much about things. Hell, at this point I would enjoy watching it end. But until then, I’m gonna chill, smoke weed, make music and spend time with the good folks around me.
Weed.
Eventually it stops working. I've been blowing through ounces faster than I ever have, feel like I barely get high anymore
Yeah that's the dopamine receptors burning out alright
Same here. I'm actually forcing myself to stop. It's expensive and I get high for shorter and shorter times. I'm trying to make it to spring, but we'll see.
I'm literally just trying to make it to sunset lol I was growing for a while which made it worse. The weed was basically free so I was just smoking joints all day
In EMS, there's a saying: if you drop the baby, pick it up.
Dropping the baby is like the worst thing you can ever do, but for Christ's sake, don't just leave it on the ground, do something about it. I've gotten involved in local government. Local government is great because you can still affect change there, and you can affect change that can snowball into something bigger with other people in other local governments making those changes. I'm on the city's bicycle commission, and I'm working with local organizations like the 'Council for Leadership and Justice' and 'Strong Towns' to try and make the world a better place than I found it. Is it futile? Sure feels like it sometimes, time will tell I guess, but the trying helps me feel better for a few reasons, not least of which because it puts me in contact with others who care enough to try too.
I act like this is not a drill. We've put together an emergency kit. We have a reverse osmosis water filter. I've been stockpiling seeds, personal care items, first aid supplies, and shelf stable food. I spend my time reading, playing board games and doing puzzles with my spouse. We're spoiling the heck out of our pets. Trying not to spend money unless absolutely necessary. Towing the line between staying informed and doom scrolling. Some days better than others.
I should probably be more active. I shouldn't drink at all, but I still do on occasion. I should be eating healthier and engaging in my community. But I only have so much energy and to be honest I'm barely holding on. Secretly praying for a Hail Mary because I can't believe this sham of an election is going to go through. I just can't.
I chose not to participate.
I joined the military as soon as I graduated high school, got a solid 20 years of free food, free shelter, free college education, free travel, and plenty of life skills/experiences, all while collecting a solid income. Then I retired at 38 years old, collected a pension and a 100% VA disability check for the rest of my life (which includes free medical/dental for life), and inherited my childhood home in the countryside when my father passed away this year.
I do what I can to help out my local community, but I'm not working and have no need to contribute to capitalism. I make my own schedule each day, do whatever hobbies/goals I have the energy for, then call it a day whenever and start again the next morning.
My wife gets the same VA benefits, although she didn't serve long enough to collect a pension; she was medically discharged. So we're both just enjoying a quiet life in the countryside, no jobs, just focused on whatever makes us happy each day.
This is the life everyone deserves to have, and I'm upset that capitalism is basically the opposite of this lifestyle. They preach that if you're not working, you're a drain on society. Because the fewer workers they have, the less money that's generated for the rich elites running the capitalist regime. That's why our retirement age keeps going up. The longer people live, the more time they have to be productive members of "society" (read: capitalism). No thanks; I retired at 38 and I'm happy enjoying my youth while I still have some semblance of it.
EDIT: I just want to point out that military life was basically democratic socialism, with all our needs met, the govt ensuring we had food and a home, education was free, most all work-related expenses paid for. (uniforms, travel, etc.) Our paycheck was basically just spending money for us. We didn't have to worry about covering bills because we received a separate "allowance" to cover rent/mortgage and utilities. Food was another allowance on top of our paycheck. If we were reassigned to another base somewhere in the world, the govt would foot the bill for movers and they packed your house for you. And you basically had to break the law to be kicked out of the military, so job security was excellent. We all got paid based on our rank and time in service, so it didn't matter if you were a geothermal physicist or just handing out towels at the gym; everyone got the same wage across the board. It was an ideal situation. You'll be hard pressed to find something similar in the rest of America.
Service guarantees citizenship!
But like, not actually a joke.
That’s not a shot at you, btw - more of a critique of the system that makes military service one of the only ways you can actually have a life like what you have.
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