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Anon plays spin the bottle
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Kid just suck.
Eh, they are a less inhibited form of adults, and a product of their upbringing.
They sense and exploit weakness for personal gain. Plenty of adults do that too. That's where they learn it from.
Yup, and I try very hard to bully my kids whenever they're bullying others so they get a taste of their own medicine, and reward them when they're excellent to others for the same reason.
My kid was a selfish brat for a bit, so I completely removed all of my attention for a bit, and I told them exactly why I was doing it. They stewed for a bit, then eventually apologized and I showered them with tons of attention.
Hopefully my kids don't end up being little terrorists, but if they do, it wasn't for lack of trying to instill some sense of humanity in them.
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Kids are Reddit. If they sense weakness; the others will pile on.
One shining star will talk about the injustice of it all in the aftermath, and everyone will privately forgive themselves and conveniently forget until the next time it happens.
The solution is to be arrogant. Insist your position in their society and force your presence. If you show you have self worth, others will be forced to grudgingly acknowledge it
Kids are Reddit. If they sense weakness; the others will pile on.
The same happens here. Just try to say anything remotely positive about Twitter/X, Elon Musk, or conservatives in general. I don't even like any of those, but sometimes I call out hypocrisy and get absolutely dumped on (even got a couple death threats). The problem isn't with Reddit, it's with social media in general, it really brings the worst kinds of people together.
People suck. Try to be just a little better than the person next to you and we'll all hopefully get through this.
You're right. I'd argue that lemmy has the advantage of not being so popular, and that the mindset is by default more counter-culture than status-quo (otherwise we'd still be on the major sites), so I do think that the people here tend to pile on less.... though I do admit that there are plenty of pylons here
At camp some guys and girls were playing in a tent, I was not included.
One got out and told me I could join. I tried to and they all laughed at me. Still hurts a bit.
Describes a lot of my childhood to be honest I was a social pariah for some reason. Completly changed when I went to college and made new friends, and now a lot of my happiest memories surround my college years. I even met my wife there!
Anon should've showered more often
Middle school kids he mighta done nothing wrong at all. Those kids at that age are terrors and will oust people from a friend group for the dumbest reasons imaginable.
Sucks because that person may have done everything right and years later still can't trust people or open up to them.
If there is even just a chance that others wouldn't understand, let alone disapprove you associating with kid X, you can accomplish 2 things by ousting them: 1. You get rid of the potential disapproval (wich is mostly just insecurity) 2. You help an ingroup getting rid of unambiguousness, by drawing/strengthening the border to the outgroup, while with the same move placing yourself on the inside.
I work with kids, and so far I think this is the objective rationality behind most or at least many acts of cruel exclusion.
The only long term, non authoritarian solution is the kids developing a moral compass, that makes violent exclusion more important to them than short term insecurity-management and of course beeing less insecure. (Plus the "weird ones" often have fluffin interesting perspectives)
As we can see in comments like "shower more" even many adults didn't recover from the competitive-acceptance-bs other kids/their parents/ this fucked up society gave them.
Ok hol up. I had to read this 10 times. Reads like AI
Are you saying you think kids are quick to push otherness away because they themselves are insecure? And as a bonus, alot of them don't gain confidence even into adulthood?
I'd just like to say that I didn't find it read like AI personally
I agree, this does not at all read like GPT
Thank you lol
Haha yeah sorry I'm sick and kinda slow rn.
Yeah basically that's what I said but I also tried to describe the rational of being mean and contextualize it in a broader mode of socialization.
This is to not just go "kids are brutal" but add additional understanding, which in turn is meant to help forgiveness (in a sense of reducing hurt) and see the involvement of social order (competition does no good to hoomans).
You know, like the kids are alright but society isn't yet so they aren't. This sucks but doesn't have to forever.
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Plot twist: Anon was at a college party where everyone else was 20+, so they didn't want to diddle him
Getting bullied for years will also do this.
I got a more direct case of rejection. 12yo me, at new school, 2nd week of classes, one of the girls that I thought was very pretty was asking others who they fancied. Once she came up to me, I meekly replied "You". I got a very loud and angry "I HATE YOU!" as an answer. Up to this day, more than 20 years later, I have no fucking clue to any possible why, in her mind, I deserved that reply.
You got that reply because you surprised her and her immature 12 y/o brain spat that out as the best response on short notice. It's entirely likely that response had nothing to do with you in particular.
B-B-b-b-BAKA!
But you probably caught her off guard. I wouldn't expect 12 year olds to really know how to express their feelings like that.
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Lol, that reaction probably haunts her, too. "Why was I so mean to that boy for no fucking reason 20 years ago?!"
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It may have been that she was embarrassed because she liked you too.
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I was at a gathering with some guy friends meeting some girls from a different school. The slightly older brother (let's call him Jay) of one of my friend's had driven us there. We were playing spin the bottle outside the apartment building. I was rejected after the bottle spun by a girl saying she didn't want to kiss me specifically. I got hurt/mad then my impulsive ADHD brain decided to get even. I saw a spigot on the floor, aimed it strait at the girl that rejected me and turned it on. More than the intended target got wet. Jay got really mad and I just ran. Once he caught up to me I thought he was going to beat me up. Instead he just laughed and told me I was going to have to leave and walk home.
LoL.. That has the feel of getting sent to the principal's office for something that they kinda actually agree with (or at least find amusing) but have to deal with by policy.
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Anon didn’t have the abilities to digest the situation to conclude what needs to be done to prevent this in the future.
Anon hopefully is older and wiser now.
I was anon once…
Shut yourself in and never meet people ever.
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When I read those, I consider myself lucky. I'm not handsome, normal sized, not athletic at all, not very sociable, closer to poor than rich, yet I never experienced any of those. Always had a few close friends and never have been single for more than 4 consecutive months since my 15th birthday. And I'm almost 40.
Is it a matter of luck? Of countries culture? Of type of schools/univ? Of social groups or generation ? I truly wonder.
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4chan is made to make people feel bad about themselves.
That's social media in general. Actually marketing is specifically designed to prey on people's insecurities.
Similar story where a University club got together at someone's apartment to stay the night, lots of previously unacquainted people in the group, after a night on the town.
Chatting, drinking, in a circle. One girl started giving the guys shoulders rubs, but went to bed when she came up to me in the circle.
Kept telling myself I dodged a bullet anyway.
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I mean, it sucks that you pinned your hopes on your crush having to follow a social pressure to kiss/fondle/fuck/whatever the "forfeit" for spin the bottle was in the first place.
It sucks that you had to go through that, but at what point does that declination of your advances suck less?
I mean, society has unfortunately favoured shitty games like "pull the bull" and "poke the bear" over any sort of genuine attraction which has usually disadvantaged women anyway - that's not to turn it into a gender thing, but maybe the idea of sparking a relationship from a forced interaction sucks from the outset.
Anon didn't make up the rules, and I wouldn't wager that he was the one who decided to start that game. Everyone chose to play knowing they wouldn't be comfortable getting anon. It doesn't seem to me like anon made any advance at all. Rejecting someone's advances for whatever reason is not morally incorrect, nor is denying them physical displays of affection. But going up to someone unprompted and telling them you find them unattractive and wouldn't feel comfortable touching them is. This seem like an intermediate situation where they willingly and knowingly created a situation where they would have to do the latter. Refusing to kiss or touch anon wasn't the fault here, initiating the game was.
It sounds like he joined (sat down into) an existing game, which if this story was true, which it isn't, because it's 4chan, would be pretty different?
I don't read it as anon joining a game, I read it as he sat down with the group, and before they started, the girls said they would only hug anon.
Agree it's not true and made up, but I didn't get the impression that anon was intruding on the game.
Had something similar to this happen to me when I was about 9.
In primary school I was invited to a birthday party. We played truth or dare. A Portuguese girl in my class was dared to kiss me. She actually started crying because she really didn't want to go near me.
Not even the worst rejection I had.
(do people really get upset about this? Im asexual and cannot tell. Sometimes this kind of thing seems fake like why would you waste energy on this? But at the same time i am aromantic and asexual so i dont know. Im probably just weird or something and a "freak of nature" as some might say.)
Remove the romance element from it.
If the bottle spins, someone has to spend time in your company doing something you enjoy. You and your friends all agree. The bottle lands on you, and suddenly whatever it was you enjoy is not just "unenjoyable" but is actively repulsive to the other people. Ironically, I'd expect people to be repulsed by having to do half my hobbies, so this isn't a perfect reframing.
Apologies if I'm not being sensitive to your thought patterns. But there must be a way of reframing this that you can see why someone would be upset that their "friends" find them actively repulsive to even be around.
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Yeah, people can get upset about this kind of thing.
14 yr olds triply so.
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