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Is there anywhere I can look for information that isn't either medical as fuck, or fetish shit. I just want to know stuff like how does sex work? Both pre and post op

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[-] AnneKitsune 19 points 1 year ago

Basically, it depends a lot and varies from people to people. I heard several stories which I can tldr here, all for pre-op on hrt:

libido might go up or down
who you are attracted to might change or not
it might become harder to maintain erections and have orgasm
some types of stimulations might become more effective (vibrator, rapid small strokes) while others might become less (slow long strokes)
you might or might not need to rely more on feelings to reach orgasm rather than physical feelings

for me, pre op: 1. no change. 2. more open minded but still mostly into woman. lost some kinks I had before. 3. yes 4. yes. 5. always has been, even before hrt.

hope this helps

[-] Vlaxtocia 4 points 1 year ago

Like, dumb question maybe, but do you orgasm more like a woman on hrt? Or is it still a one and done deal?

[-] AnneKitsune 5 points 1 year ago

The feeling is a little bit different, but I can't say currently. I never had motivation to continue after the first one yet

[-] flora_explora@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Well, after 3 years on HRT it feels very different for me. Not so much "one and done deal", maybe more like cis women but who knows. (I'm pre/non-op)

[-] BlueSharkEnjoyer 17 points 1 year ago

For pre-op http://fuckingtranswomen.org/ is generally what is recommended.

Unfortunately she passed away before writing the post-op version.

[-] snowsuit2654 8 points 1 year ago

Any idea what happens to the money if I purchase this?

[-] BlueSharkEnjoyer 8 points 1 year ago

I think I read something about her sister handling it now.

[-] LadyAutumn 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Pre op it worked essentially the same as before HRT although I rarely used it. Post op it works pretty much the same as any other vagina. It's very different from pre op and takes some time to figure out.

Feel free to ask whatever questions you've got here in this community. I'd also recommend looking into some YouTube videos of people discussing sex pre op and post op. There definitely are some.

[-] MaryReadsBooks@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

I recommend the book "trans sex" by Kelvin Sparks

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