If you're playing solo you can't be invaded.

Once you've played enough, the fact that it's hard makes it better. I remember the first time I played dark souls, (dark souls III) I beat the 2nd boss months after the first try (i didn't play continuously for those months obviously). I was just unable to beat it. I looked at the wiki for builds, for that specific boss starts and so on.

Once I beat it, though, I kinda knew how to play, and the fact that the bosses were hard made it better, since now I got a big dopamine hit after I finally killed them after tens of tries.

Now, most games I play I beat them on the first try. Not because I'm good, but because the games are easy. I watch other people play and they kill them first try too. I don't get that same sense of "oh this is a boss, it's gonna be hard but fun." Instead I think "oh no, I was having fun oneshotting everyone and now here comes the bullet sponge".

Have you tried being zealously masochistic and self-flagellant? Gitting gud is another option.

But really though there's something endearing about a game being ruthlessly difficult with no easy mode slider. I'm normally the type of guy to crank everything down to easy to have a relaxing time, but when I'm in the mood for it Souls games scratch that itch juuuuust right.

Some people like developing an artistic skill. This is that. Fuck up on the piano? Start that part over and get it right this time. Fuck up in elden ring? Start that part over and get it right this time. Both have acceptable amounts of variation that lead to success. Elden ring is in fact easier, because things can change that aren't solely your skill level (stats/gear). There's a lot of reasons the souls series and similar games are conducive to speedrunning, this loop of self-improvement is a major one.

When I read comments like yours, they come across as saying "practicing anything is stupid and I do not see the benefit". It's easy: practicing anything is fun and you only get to see the benefit after you fail, then succeed. If there's some mental disconnect you have where you can't envision success for yourself, or you think succeeding won't be fun, it certainly isn't the fault of the game or the community.

Honestly, it was not enough. With Easy Mode mod, I could actually explore the game world and immerse myself more than I would ever have. One of my favourite moments is when I was fighting Dragonkin boss in front a giant throne occupied by a massive skeleton in first underground city. It was amazing. I could never experience it without that mod. I am too easily frustrated.

No, it's set to whatever the default is. I'll try what you suggest, thanks!

I've been spontaneously singing a lot

Did the appeal do anything?

Yeah that's basically how I felt. It was binary. The game was unfairly and frustratingly hard when I was trying to play fair and take the game on its terms. And then when I went to cheese everything it was so trivial that it felt empty. Sometimes I think about going back to the game to try to get the "real" experience, but then I remember the frustration and just can't bring myself to do it.

Although part of my reluctance to replay the game has less to do with boss difficulty and more to do with the repetitiveness of the open world. Without the sense of exploration and discovery you get on the first playthrough, the world becomes a checklist of places you need to go to grab stuff for your build with little desire to go replay the other content because so much of it is copy pasted filler. Even going through the DLC now, with it being smaller in scope than the full game, but still pretty huge, I'm already seeing a lot of repeat content.

As much as I appreciate the attempt at putting a twist on the formula, I think the open world was a net negative for the game. The flaws in the reward systems of the previous games were exacerbated by the structure which led you to explore all the boring repetitive stuff on a first play-through because you don't know if the thing you need might be in catacomb #20 and then on subsequent playthroughs you just skip vast parts of the game which aren't relevant to you.

It also just doesn't seem like they have the content output necessary to fill an open world with content that is of a comparable level of novelty and quality to what we'd come to expect from their level design. There's a good dark souls game in Elden Ring, it's just that it's spaced out and everything in between is padding.

The funny thing is, despite all of that, Elden Ring is still one of the top 3 open world games alongside the 2 Zelda titles. But I think that says as much about the state of the industry and genre as much as it does about the skill of FROM's and Nintendo's designers.

I mean, to some extent yes. The hostile, uncaring world complemented by challenging gameplay that doesn't hold your hand is an important part of the design. I just think they went too far in Elden Ring to the point where it stops being a challenge I can feel good about overcoming. But that's not really what I meant as far as the flaws with the games.

Setting aside difficulty, their games are filled with flaws, both minor and major. Some they've learned from over the years, some they haven't, and some which they've gone backwards. I could get into a whole discussion about them, but it's a testament to the rest of the design that I can acknowledge all of these and look past them to enjoy what was done right. Just a few off the top of my head:

• The stats are obtuse and frequently either broken or useless. Resistance from DS 1, Poise from DS 3, armor in basically any game, etc. This makes engaging with the RPG elements feel kind of pointless and why in a lot of the games I played basically naked.

• The stat requirements and the need for upgrade materials makes it so that most items you find will be useless to you. They alone don't really contribute to the desire to explore. I do end up exploring around in these games, but it's in spite of the rewards rather than because of them.

• Demon Souls made you go back to a hub through a load screen to level. Dark Souls 1 fixed this. Then every game after that until Sekiro has gone back to forcing you to go through a load screen to level.

• The games are really inconsistent with their use of bonfires and shortcuts. I think to this day Dark Souls 1 has the best level design of the series. The lack of fast travel for the first half really makes you engage with the levels and makes you appreciate the shortcuts you find and eventually the fast travel once you have it. Since then all of the games have gone bananas with the bonfires/sites/etc with fast travel right from the start. There were some absolutely absurd places in DS3 where there was another bonfire within sight of the first. Then you have areas with absolutely no bonfires and shortcuts all the way through, or none at all. In Elden Ring sometimes you get sites of grace or stakes of Marika right outside the boss door and sometimes there just isn't one anywhere close.

• Consumables feel pretty useless since they're non-renewable. If you use them and still can't kill the boss before they run out, you're now just gonna have to beat the boss without them, so you might as well not have bothered. Elden Ring kind of helped this with crafting, but honestly I haven't used it much because I just am trained not to think about consumables in these games at this point.

• Some weapons/spells end up being completely useless. Some feel like they were designed for a different game. I don't know how they imagined people would make use of them. And iirc bows and spells have been a joke until like DS3, and even then from what I've heard people say bows are still pretty crap.

I think what's interesting about these games is that they're unpolished. That's not to say I wouldn't want these problems fixed with better design, but I think I prefer what we have to the usual AAA design where everything rough gets sanded down until the whole game is bland and appeals to nobody equally.

There's going to be a lot of people confused because there are actually TWO Shadow of the Erdtree listings.

One is the premium bundle which is at mostly positive and there is the DLC by itself which is mixed.

Check listings under publisher: Fromsoftware Inc