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Take a long walk in the darkening woods. Sleep in the open on the beach. Go to a bar and get blackout drunk.
Chilling with bears, if I understand recent events correctly.
I think I missed this, what is being referred to here?
Viral hypothetical "would you rather spend a night in the woods with a bear or a man". Toxic men getting butthurt when women chose the bear
That entire question was just pure rage bait from the start, without even resulting in any useful data
To whoever asked the question in the first place, I congratulate you for comming up with the perfect rage bait question.
That entire question was just pure rage bait
Isn’t that the point though? The fact that the question was asked and rather than think “shit, could we be better?”, some men are literally seething with anger about it?
It's toxic to not want to be treated like a monster for something I didn't do?
Women were talking about men in general. Some men took it as though they specifically were being targeted. If women don’t feel comfortable running alone at night because men can be predators, men in general should listen. When I hear that, I don’t take offence. I’m with you, I’ve never done anything. But we should be trying to figure out ways that women can feel more comfortable around men. Women shouldn’t need to feel like they have their guard up, and listening is the first step.
Whites were talking about blacks in general. Some black people took it as though they specifically were being targeted. If white people don’t feel comfortable running alone at night because blacks can be predators, black people in general should listen. When I hear that, I don’t take offence. I’m with you, I’ve never done anything. But we should be trying to figure out ways that whites can feel more comfortable around blacks. Whites shouldn’t need to feel like they have their guard up, and listening is the first step.
Every time you hear a claim about women/men replace with white and blacks, if you sound like a racist asshole, then you're being a sexist asshole. This also applies for other stuff, including just reverting roles, if just by doing that you're able to make your argument sound straight from the KKK, you know it's a bad argument.
That's not to say that women shouldn't feel like that, or that there isn't a problem in our society, but the same can be said about white/black situation. The difference is that most people (at least non racist assholes) understand that a higher criminality among black people has nothing to do with their skin tone, and is instead a consequence of historical factors perpetuated by social injustice, so they understand why generalized statements such as the one you made are problematic. But with the men/women people in general think it's different, they think that men are inherently more violent or whatever, so their broad statements get less judgement, let's not forget that up until recently that was also the general consensus about race as well.
In short if you do broad generalizations like that you ARE being an asshole, and people will feel attacked. And what's worse is that those people are more likely to then align with someone who opposes your views which oftentimes means right wing Nazis just because they're not attacking them.
lol that doesn't make any sense. Why would you replace something with something completely different and expect it to work the same ?
Because at its core your argument is "group of people X feels threatened by group of people Y, but group Y should listen and not feel attacked if someone from group X tells them group Y is dangerous". Replacing group X and Y by any group of people should give you an idea of why this is a bad argument. In other words I'm just applying analogical reasoning to your argument to showcase that in an analogous situation the same argument would be considered aggressive.
Granted, it's not always possible to substitute groups, but if your counterargument is that the substitutions are not analogous you need to present evidence of why that is the case. In other words, why do you think this argument applies to women who are afraid of men but not to whites that are afraid of blacks.
I am listening, and what I'm hearing is that I, as an innocent person, am a source of terror for someone I've never met because of a fact of my biology that I have no control over. I have no ability to change the feelings of someone else, because no matter what, those feelings are only able to be changed by the person feeling them. I can say I'm innocent and not a threat until I'm blue in the face, I can act as non-threatening as I possibly can, I can leave women alone in public. None of that matters because I'm not the one with the power over those feelings.
You say you're listening but all you're hearing is how what is being said affects you.
You appear to see yourself as a victim. This makes you more dangerous than a bear.
The bear won't take a women's fear of it personally. It will want to avoid confrontation.
You will definitely take it personal. You appear willing to confront them for their fear. You will demand they not be afraid of you, because you are innocent. The scenario is one of a thousand reasons they choose the bear.
No. You’re not a source of terror. But people don’t know that. They just see a man. The issue isn’t with you, it’s with common experiences women have had with men.
There are so many bears that don’t hurt humans. But humans carry bear spray just in case the one they encounter is dangerous.
No one thinks you're a monster. We simply don't know if you are one. Women's safety is more important than your feelings, period.
You are taking the bait, this question was never about the actual answers, but rather the male response to being told that we men pose a risk to women, this question was just asked to generate responses from men, proving their point that men are angry and dangerous.
Yes, you're a man, so you should suffer because equality, hurr durr. And you're a misogynist if you say something. And you're a racist if you point out it's the same as saying "black people are [insert stereotype here]".
Welcome to online interactions of the latest decade! Luckily I don't encounter this hostility for having been born with a penis in real life, otherwise I'd probably just gone and killed myself, it's unpleasant enough being the public enemy online.
But hey, everything's fair when it comes to ~~revenge~~ equality!
Taking a nice looong relaxing walk downtown in my sluttiest outfit with my girlfriend
I asked my sister and my mum this question.
Sister: she'd be working as usual. Her only co-worker in their small biz is also a woman, so no issue. She asked about her male cats first, before asking about my nephew and BIL.
Mum: she said that she'd be eating air fryer French fries and ice cream through the day and watching movies. She can't be arsed to cook. (I'm usually the one cooking here.)
Going for a topless walk on the beach at night! It's the only time I'd feel safe enough to. I've been sexually harassed and assaulted enough, starting back when I was a little girl, to know I could never do that normally.
Dress up, go out and to a bar all by myself, meet strangers without worrying about how to get rid of them later.
Go to the nicest sauna in town, spa all day.
Full hair and makeup, sparkly dress that shows a lot, go to a trendy bar with my friends and get blackout ass drunk without worrying about protecting my drink all night and knowing I can walk home by myself.
In the morning I would nurse the hangover while ordering the biggest ass teddy 🐻 bear 🐻 that will fit through my door as a memento.
enjoy driving and parking lots without dealing with this small-penis-overcompensating-car-stereo bullshit
Yaay, another day, another person making fun of a medical condition and linking it to macho behaviour.
"Small penis" is a euphemism/metaphor to describe men who act like obnoxious douchebags because they're compensating for some undisclosed physical/psychosocial/emotional insecurity.
Can anyone provide reasons why men intentionally equip their cars with ear-damaging, bone-rattling, illegal decibels of obnoxious maddening noise? This accomplishes nothing for them other than everyone hating them and labeling them as douchebags. People like that are the reason I intentionally do not own a gun because I would lose control with it the first time a car like that comes within my sight.
I know what the euphemism stands for. But reverse the situation, put small tits somewhere in the sentence and suddenly it's big bad.
Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who tries to imagine what people will feel like when reading stuff. And I'm imagining a guy whose only "crime" is having been born with a small penis and having to constantly read how that makes him a macho.
Why does everyone forget how to behave when it comes to men? Y'all are being quite disgusting.
I'd travel to other countries and explore them by myself (I'd need way more than 24 hours though).
Anything I'd otherwise do.
These kinds of questions are dumb af. Why? What do you think would reasonably happen if half the population disappeared in an instant? You don’t know when they’re coming back you just know they’re gone.
Instant economic and infrastructure collapse as 50% of human labor is now missing.
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