I believe you and I don't have an issue with you personally, but given the way you handled becoming head mod (ignoring suggestions, feedback and pleas to not change things so suddenly with no explanation) I can't see this community surviving without addressing things, which I believe you are fully capable of.

I don't think you necessarily need to step down as head mod, that's up to you, however I think the next steps should be community driven. It would be a big move that would inspire a lot of confidence if you address transparency issues (explain how decisions will be made and commit to explaining them fully beforehand, for example) and allow mods to be chosen by the community, though given the nature of Lemmy I'm not sure that there is a good way to do this. I see Grail has put Their hand up to be a moderator in that thread, if you're considering accepting I think you necessarily need to engage the community first. It will look like someone bullied LOC.wav off of lemmy and took over their space, and personally from having read a few of Their medium articles I won't be at all comfortable in this space with them on the mod team, but again should be a community decision imho.

Also I'll just add that if you're feeling overwhelmed and need help or just someone to chat to in general, please reach out I'm happy to help if I can.