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Son, we need to have a serious talk!
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this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2024
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Part of the problem is that men are simply not on alert for bad behavior. They have the luxury of being unaware. When my friend's dad groped me at a party, I was in a conversation circle with him and 3 of my male friends. None of them noticed him doing it, none of them noticed me going stiff and pale. None of them questioned why I suddenly felt sick and immediately called an Uber to leave.
The dad felt totally comfortable to do that literally less than 2 feet from three other men because you guys aren't looking out for it in a way that women are. Alternatively, I've had stranger women come up to me in public to ask me if I'm uncomfortable because a guy at a gas station is talking to me while I pump my gas. We're looking out for each other.
"We all a society" have absolutely not pushed out bad actors. If anything, women have closed ranks, but in my experience the men have not, without explicit instruction, called out bad behavior.
Thank you for this insight. We all really need more of this kind of dialogue to build awareness around what to look for.
Men expect you to communicate if you have an issue, that is how we communicate. We're busy looking for the next tough guy, suckerpuncher, or knife-wielding psycho because those are the kinds of scars we bear. We're not going to be looking at subtle changes in the color of your skin in a dark bar.