How would you describe your gender? (self.trans)

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It doesn't just have to be "oh I'm a man/woman/enby." What qualities do you have or want to obtain as your gender? How do you express yourself? What does your gender feel like?

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[-] A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world 4 points 8 months ago

In conversation: "enby"

I still think about it sort of like I did as a teenager before I realized I was trans. I feel like there's two people inside me, and oddly enough, since I was a kid I occasionally noticed that I refer to myself as "we." I don't know if that's normal.

One is a man who loves competition and mainly wants to socialize with men because they're generally more relatable. He also mainly likes things that happen to be traditionally male-dominated like videogames and programming. It's the more "active" side of me.

The other side is a woman who feels like she only recently stopped being ignored. Even now, we don't always get what she wants due to social pressure, but at least we acknowledge her now and understand what she wants. She wants to train our voice and wear more stylish clothes. She feels confident when we appear feminine. That's the more "passive" side of the equation.

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