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Transition party when?
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image description: Twitter post by Faith Naff @faithnaff.
I think trans people should get thrown transition showers like brides and pregnant people get. All your friends come over to celebrate this big moment in your life, gift you things to start living your true gender, and just have a big party. Can we make that a thing?
The idea is cool. BUT (warning opinion) I feel like that makes being trans something of a "better state" then being cis or something else. I felt this very strongly when I first heard about the whole LGBTQ+ thingy and thought that people are just celebrating themselves for being special little snowflakes. By now, I know that this is not true, but I always felt it to be a bit demeaning, that all of a sudden everyone -but- cis hetero people got celebrated for some reason. By now I've turned out to be trans, but I still think this way. I specifically find it a bit demeaning, that we got all these funky coloured sexuality flags, but the hetero one is just -black and white-. Like, the most boring thing ever.
Edit:
Wow I must really sound like some weirdo defending her opinion on some black and white stripes. Most controversial opinion to date!
Think about what we naturally celebrate.
We celebrate challenges overcome. We celebrate the things that make us unique. We celebrate our achievements.
We don't celebrate the things that come for free, or are easy. We don't celebrate things we all have the same, because why would we?
You might not get a banner, a party, or a cookie for being a cis-hetero person, but you probably have other challenges or unique features that are worth celebrating. You don't have to be included in everything to be included in anything.
Being trans is a better state than pretending to be cis. We can be proud and celebrate our achievements without having to consider the feelings of cis folks. Heterosexuals have several flags, if they don't like one they can make more.
Fair point, you're right. I just had that thought in my head for a bit too long.
Pride isn't a party telling you how special you are. It's a reaction against living in a society that tells you that you should be ashamed of being queer and a rejection of shame.
All the Pride month ads in the world don't undo having to evaluate whether or not it's safe to be out at work, or if your spouse should be with you when checking out that one bedroom apartment you want to rent, or if your doctor is going to treat you differently (all things that have gone south for me when someone learned I was gay and trans).
LGBTQ+ pride typically means "the rejection of shame" not "accomplishment"
but also transitioning seems to me (a queer cis dude) to require a whole hell of a lot of effort, so it's kinda both I suppose.
anyways, the cishets don't need your defense, save your energy