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"That depends. Is the existence of this form going to be known to my family? If so, yep, totally safe."
yeah i remember they asked something like that when i was in school. i knew that if i told them the truth, my mother would abuse me when i get home.
(because for some incomprehensible reason, whenever there's any problem, the mother is the first who gets to know about it. doesn't matter whether i explicitely tell them not to tell my mother.)
I distinctly remember being like 12 and intentionally lying on the long general mental health screening form at the two questions that were screening for gender dysphoria. I couldn't put into words why it mattered that I was lying about it, but I just had a strong suspicion it wouldn't go well if I told the truth because my parents might find out. I consider that decision to be yet another instance of me using my intelligence to do something dumb.
Thankfully I never thought to tell the psychologists about how my parents' fighting made me feel, because oh boy would that not have gone well
Same, except it was do you feel safe at school. It was around age 13 or so and by that point I had solidly learnt that telling anyone just adds punishment to the bruises.
Ugh yeah. We had a bunch of cops come do an assembly at my junior school about 'violence at home' and then they spent playtime in one of the classrooms where students could come ask for help and whatnot.
I got all the way into the room in front of them before I chickened out at the thought of the never ending repercussions I was going to face if I brought cops to the house. I just mumbled some bullshit about 'wrong room' and left.