276
We really are scared sometimes
(piefed.cdn.blahaj.zone)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 12 Jun 2026
276 points (100.0% liked)
WomensStuff
1167 readers
315 users here now
Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.
Rules…
- Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women's community is a good fit for them.
- Don’t be a dick. No personal attacks, no aggression, play nice.
- Don’t hate on groups, hatefilled talk about groups is not allowed. Ever.
- No governmental politics, so no talk of Trump actions etc. We recommend Feminism@beehaw.org for that, but here is an escape from it.
- New accounts or users with few comments may have their posts removed to prevent spam and bad-faith participation.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
It’s fight, flight, freeze, and fawn for a reason. They’re all ways of trying to escape a dangerous situation.
My ex husband got angry with me once for this. I commuted via bus early in the mornings and I stupidly picked a window seat one day. A man sat next to me, blocking me in between him and the window, and then proceeded to push his thigh against mine and put his hand on my knee through the commute. Because it was a morning bus, the drivers keep the lights off for people to snooze. I froze, completely froze. And then I got yelled at by my partner for supposedly welcoming this man’s advances.
I’m sorry you’ve experienced this as well. Many warm thoughts and positivity being sent your way 💕
I want to scream reading this. I fucking hate them both but I can't say which one I hate more. Glad that piece of shit is your ex-husband.
I get fawn from cptsd and it fucking sucks. It comes with people pleasing and saying yes to things you don't want to do. It's really hard to break if formed as a coping mechanism in childhood. Like I'll literally be trying to say no and I just say yes instead.
Oh I could cut a bitch. Never let your partner speak to you this way. I hope he apologized at least.
Oh it's ok, I divorced his ass :)
Good to hear
<3
Good call
sorry, what is fawn? i've not heard of that one before.
Being agreeable and sweet in response to potentially lessen an attack.