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Why some trans women defend men so much?
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How exactly is this antagonistic? I'm only asking because as trans women we suffer from men's toxic behaviors more than anyone but I still meet a significant amount of trans women who will try to deny that society makes men commit most of the terrible stuff happening in the world.
It does frustrate me, what can I say 🤷🏻♀️ men are literally taking everything away from us I don't think they need to be defended.
You might wanna lookup the Apex Fallacy, because you're spreading it all over, intentionally, or not.
I assume you don't. But many of the people who say things like "all men are terrible" include trans women in their definition of "men." Also, trans people certainly understand getting scapegoated for your gender or apparent gender for reasons completely beyond your control.
I'm a trans woman. I identify as a woman. I've dealt with my share of terrible men. But for the first part of my life I wasn't out and I did present as male. And when people said, "all men or terrible," they didn't know what was in my heart. They could go only by my outward appearance. That "all men" included me. And until you came out, when a woman looked across a crowd and said, "all men or terrible," she included you as well.