[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

Okay the issue here is, I've done this before and it didn't work. And right now I'm not on a stage where I want to expose my transness to my social circle, what's most likely to happen if I tell a guy who is into me is that he will be shocked and tell a lot of people. Also there's barely any men interested in my hobbies unless they're gay

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Honestly? No, my hobbies are gardening, reading and writing, and most guys are into videogames and gym. Like all of them it just feels so stupid how a lot of them like those two things. But at the same time I might not see a man with my same hobbies as masculine, which is a huge turn off for me.

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

Thanks 🫢🏻 something that I noticed that makes them leave a lot is when I ask if they're bisexual. Because in my mind if they're willing to have a relationship with a trans woman then they must be bisexual? It's just an opinion I don't understand why lose interest just because of that

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

Uhh no actually I have very bad grammar because I'm not a native speaker, and I'm the opposite of autistic I'm very talkative and social πŸ˜…

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago

Thanks for the honesty, yes I know it and it's understandable. What I don't understand is why stay several dates?

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

What does take charge mean? I date older men, I'm sorry but if a 40 year old man wants to be taken care of by someone half their age... Sorry but that's not the kind of man I'm looking for

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago

Hahaha it's funny why do I always get accused of being AI in all my social media? 😭

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago

No honestly I don't like compliments, I just have a hard time telling the difference between a fetishistic one and a normal one

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago

I'm very confused, I don't see where they mentioned my sexual characteristics 😭

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 week ago

But I'm very upfront about the fact that I'm not a sexual person at all, which I know is a turn off for a lot of guys

But a lot of them still stay after all, I get 100 matches a day so there's very different kinds of men, I still don't understand why they leave and I think it's because they have dates with me as a second option while they're trying something with another person they like more

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago

I'm not really attracted to trans men, but I do know a lot are very handsome just not my type. The thing is, I don't disclose it directly on my profile, only on that note, so the interactions are like these:

[-] choihanna@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Thanks for the advice, but I already tried when I was a teenager. I only accepted a date from a classmate who later physically hurt me after I disclosed that I'm trans. What I like about the apps is that they can't hurt me physically they can only say bad things

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submitted 1 week ago by choihanna@lemmy.zip to c/askmen@lemmy.world

So before anything I'm a trans woman (20), I do not claim to be a real woman or try to put women down or mock them. So please I'd like to ask you to abstein from comments about it because I already know what I am.

I've been trying dating apps because they feel safer than just dating people from your daily life when I was a teen (friends and classmates).

I do have a note on my profile that notifies these men about what I am before they can chat with me, some unmatch, others will say bad stuff before leaving, but another big amount stay. Everything goes fine we chat for a long time, we have a few dates, but in the end they all seem to lose interest at some point.

It just makes me so tired of meeting a lot of different men every month. I don't understand what they want.

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