this post was submitted on 12 Feb 2026
53 points (100.0% liked)
Transfem
5278 readers
183 users here now
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
- Please provide content warnings where appropriate.
- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
It depends a lot on where you get it done. They have different procedures and care routines in the US/Asia/Europe. I'm in Germany and I was in hospital for two weeks, then at home for another two recovering 90% of the time and from then on I slowly started to go back to normal life. I'm now almost 8 weeks post-op and I'm back to work since week 6 and doing everything like I did before surgery. Working out is still a no-no theoretically but I don't work out anyway lol.
They gave me pretty heavy painkillers in the hospital but ever since coming back home I've not taken any and haven't felt any pain in the area.
Ah, Nachbärin! Germany, close to me (🇳🇱). Wonderful, I'm so happy for you :D
I hope you feel much better!! I hope you celebrated it with a Blåhaj and nice food!
Do they offer surgeries in Germany in where you can get a self-lubricating vagina? What are all the options?
Ohh wat leuk haha! I celebrated a lot! Getting surgery was life-saving for me and my bottom dysphoria got so bad over the last year I'm so so glad I had the privilege to have surgery. As for options I didn't really have any because I went to one of the very few (maybe the only one? I'm not sure) clinics that had less than a 2-3 year wait and they only offered standard penile inversion with some special enhancement only they do. To be completely honest with you I didn't care much about the method or the details of getting one exact type of surgery. For me, just getting rid of my penis was the most important thing above all, by all means possible. I don't know if I would've been able to wait years for a clinic that offers any other method so it wasn't really a choice. But I think in Germany most of them do the same stuff anyway so it doesn't matter that much. I'm very happy with what I got.
Oddly enough I obsessed A LOT over HRT and still do, the different methods and how it works etc. But with bottom surgery I didn't research it that much, I just NEEDED to get it done so desperately, having a penis was literal torture for me and it got worse every day. Of course I looked at it enough to not get screwed over by doctors but it wasn't nearly the amount of research & deep-diving I did with most other aspects of transition.