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I'm afab, nb and have a very androgynous look, but with wide ish hips that kind of give me some mild dysphoria since puberty. How do you deal with a part of yourself you cant change? Any tips?
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Hello fellow nb o7
In my case, my dysphoria got a little better after losing some weight and learning to work out to "modify" my shape a bit. Can't really do anything about my hip bones, but losing weight = losing fat around the hip = making it look less pronounced. I've also been focusing my workouts to get wider shoulders and more solid obliques, which makes the body look more like a "rectangle" instead of an "hourglass."
Putting on muscles as an afab takes a lot of time, esp if you're not on T. I'm still a long way to my ultimate goals, but I definitely don't dread looking at the mirror as much as I did a year ago!
Good to hear you are on your way to achieving your desired physique! This is the way, i feel.
I'm basicly built like slenderman's spawn so I my only real femenine feature are those child bearing hips, :'c. I guess I'd have to do the opposite and gain weight and muscle mass which is so hard... but yeah I guess it's the way to balance things out.
Thanks a lot for the advice. :)