cw: TERFs and general transphobia
For the most part, I avoid Reddit like the plague, but when I'm feeling sad, I find myself going on r/terf_trans_alliance, and then I feel worse.
I don't know what drives them to participate, but the minority of trans posters are ridiculed, subjected to abusive comments, and mass downvoted for any attempt to get through to them in a way that isn't absolute self-flagellating placation. Some things I noticed after just a minute or two of scrolling:
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- The term "TRA"
- Accusations of male socialization, with some gaslighting when trans people try to discuss their personal experiences about their upbringings that do not fit the narrative
- Accusations of "mansplaining"
- Assumptions that trans women are predatory
- Assumptions that trans women have an entitlement complex
- Accusations that trans women conform to rigid misogynist stereotypes, but also that trans women are too masculine to embody what they identify as
- Assertions that trans women defending themselves need to accept male privilege, comparisons to white fragility
- The comparison of being trans to a cultist religion
- The insinuation that upvotes or kind words "shields trans people from reality"
- Casual references to trans women, whether indirectly or directly to trans commenters/OPs, as men or males
- The likening of trans women to white supremacists
There's this stereotype that Reddit is this liberal echo chamber, but I seem to know all of the many places where it's not, and I seek out those places when I know they'll hurt me.
For those of you just on Lemmy, what are your strategies not to stray back to Reddit?
That's a perfect metaphor. I really loved Reddit 10 years ago before they enshittified when it was small communities. Every other social media app has been pretty easy to quit, but Reddit is the one I keep coming back to, even though it's long been enshittified, because I have that history with the platform.
I feel like each time I go back to Reddit now, there's a bigger time gap than there was last time. I hope to get there someday.