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How are you so strong? (programming.dev)

So I have accepted for some time now that I am a trans woman. I wear feminine clothes in public from time to time and it’s at the point that I don’t in the moment care if somebody stares at me. I have been voice training also for about a month and it feels great to be a woman among accepting people. I have also tried (DIY) estrogen and I love its emotional changes. The first day felt absolutely divine and I do not want to stop, however I am scared. I am lazy and I am not sure if I can do it every single day. These thoughts have been hunting me every day for the past week for multiple hours a day. Yesterday I was completely paralyzed by my own thoughts and I couldn’t do anything for 12 hours (-> I have probably failed my exam today), because the choice of facing the world or giving up estrogen is too hard. It got to a point that even suicide came to mind, just so I don’t have to choose. My gender dysphoria boy modding exists but it’s not strong. I am going to visit an uni psychologist soon because of this.

My question is: How did you figure out that this is the battle you want to fight?

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[-] hildegarde 4 points 1 day ago

I took estrogen and things started to feel normal, so I kept going. Its not strength. Its not a battle. Its following a new path at your own pace. Eventually you figure out what you need to do to keep going.

this post was submitted on 08 Oct 2025
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