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I would just advise that the surgeon be someone who also works on other trans affirming surgeries, especially vaginoplasties, and knows how to perform the orchi in a way that preserves future options for a vaginoplasty. My orchi surgeon also later performed my vaginoplasty, and that's common advice: to have the same surgeon perform the orchi and later the vaginoplasty.
Have you gone to local trans support groups and spoken with any local trans women who have had an orchi?
I know of a woman who will be having her orchi in a couple months in Madison, WI - I could always try to see how that experience goes for her and find out her surgeon if that would help.
I can also DM you details of my surgeon, people do travel from all over the country, and the midwest specifically, to see him, and I can confirm his work is excellent.
This is really good advice, thanks.
I have never knowingly met another trans person IRL. I'm in a pretty red area, but I'm sure there are others. I have no idea where I'd look though.
I would appreciate that!
The t4t app can help you find local trans folk.