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Shoe and underwear recommendations?
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I don't know what your size is, but a lot of us (including me) wear shoe sizes that most stores don't have in stock.
Thursday Boot Company has womens' sneakers that go to size 13, and those are high quality. Someone did a three-year review, actually. Red Wings moc toe shoes are super durable and can be repaired. (Solovair and Jim Green are non-American alternatives for those boycotting.) Vans and Converse also has extended sizes, but those tend to be two-year shoes. I'd skip anything from Torrid and most other Chinese imports.
Underwear: The lady who runs Leolines is doing important work, but I'm not impressed with the quality. She splits the fabric in two places right where the tuck is, which is a design flaw that has led to multiple pairs failing on both me and my fiancee within a year. I've had way better experiences with TomboyX; the stitching is way tighter and it's one big piece of fabric sewed to a waistband. I have yet to encounter a pair of tucking underwear that uses natural fibers, though. If you don't need to tuck, I've had good experiences with PAKA and Branwyn.