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"""Boy""" mode 🤨
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Sometimes when you don't think you can pass, it might feel safer to present male or ambiguous. Unfortunately, it's also common for those transfems to underestimate how feminine they still are and fail to pass as male. For example, I tried to boymode when traveling through a conservative state, yet still "malefailed" because I had fully transitioned to using a feminine voice and couldn't revert it on the fly. Looking androgynous enough to have family friends think I was always a girl for years didn't help either.
Thank you for the explanation! This makes a lot of sense, I never considered that someone might choose to tactically adjust their gender presentation like that, in retrospect it's not surprising.
If it wasn't obvious I'm a cis person, I imagine there're a lot of negative feelings like anxiety or even dysmorphia associated with doing that kind of thing but on the bright side it seems like it could feel like pulling off a heist as well.
It's an unfair burden but it's also kinda cool that you engage with and think about gender identity in a critical way, using it as a tool almost in addition to a core part of your identity.
Thanks again for helping me understand, I hope I haven't come across as rude in finding this a little fascinating.