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I’m not expecting cosmic tit for tat.
I’m just wanting to sleep on a fucking mattresss considering that I ve spent most of my life trying to help ofhers
See, but that's not how that works.
You expect to sleep in a mattress because that's a basic, common need for people that the entirety of society should be sorting out for everybody. You should have living and sleeping arrangements regardless of how much of an asshole you are. You spending life helping others has nothing to do with having a mattress to sleep on... and it shouldn't. It should be universal.
So helping others and kindess and well-being has nothing to do with that. There are poor and destitute and homeless assholes as well, unfortunately. Plenty of perfectly nice people are doing just fine, or better than that. Being mad that the ways society or life failed you despite helping others is expecting cosmic tit for tat by definition.
So my argument is to stop blaming the helping of others for the misfortune and start dealing with the misfortune directly. Which in you scenario sounds like it has more to do with society, how it's structured and how it should have helped you that with anything you did, if we're at the level of talking about not having a mattress to sleep on.
For what it's worth, I don't know when your birthday is... but happy birthday. Whatever is keeping you down, materially or mentally I hope it gets better.