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transcription: "not all men" your right, gomez addams would never do this
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Majority of women want a Gomez. So, no clue where you got that phrase from but it's kinda dumb to continue saying. Feels like it's just a rehashing of the NiceGuy™ rhetoric "women only want bad guys who treat them like shit" nonsense.
Honestly the statement wasn't meant to be "women don't want this" so much as "women don't openly express desire for this." Gomez isn't, in my mind, part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desireable male partner is.
Anecdotally, that may be true for your personal experience, I can't speak against that, but I have to mention that what most people believe to be "part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desirable male partner is" comes from misogynistic cultural norms that predominantly men, not women, have perpetuated; decades of men consistently disregarding the opinions of women and opting to tell them what they want instead of actually listening to their desires.
It's less "women don't openly express desire for this" and more "men don't actually listen, thinking they know better than women about what they 'actually' want".
Gomez is written the way he is specifically because he is a personification of what women actually have been saying for decades that they want in a romantic partner that men have consistently been ignoring. It's kinda the entire point of his character in the Adams Family.
You got me there. That was kind of the whole point of the show, no? To be an anti-nuclear sitcom family, who is, at a glance off putting and evil, but are in reality extremely supportive, caring, and generally what you would want a family to be