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How to deal with mail?
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I'm not a lawyer but I can't imagine this would be problematic from a legal standpoint. For example, I've known several people who go by nicknames or their middle name and their birthday cards always get delivered without issue.
The tricky part is that some mailmen (mailpeople? I'm having a brainfart on the gender inclusive term.) won't deliver mail unless it matches the name on the mailbox. This usually pops up in apartment complexes. In that case, just keep your last name on your mailbox and ensure your mail has a matching last name. Your first name shouldn't matter.
(Postal worker or mail carrier)
Yes! Thank you
mail carrier or postal carriers or just carriers, postie overseas i think
Gendered last names fucking ruin this strategy
Can you explain?
Two eastern european chefs can have the same family name but different spelling of last names,
Oh, that's really interesting and informative! Thanks for explaining it.
More info: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/East_Slavic_naming_customs
Ah I see. OP did specify that they're in the US so hopefully this is not a problem for them.
I'm in the US and it is very much a problem for me and another trans person even in a state that protects trans rights
Isn't it troublesome on paperwork to have differing last names in the same family? I even found an article saying that most Eastern European families use a singular last name when they come to the US, because differing last names really isn't compatible with the US legal system.
Idk, my sister and I have different legal last names, and my brother has my last name for a middle name.
That must be difficult. Do you think you'll eventually change your last name when you do your legal name change?
Yes
Ashley Mansymann.
I don't see the problem - Ashley's mother and sisters would have the same last name, right?
Yeah but they don't have a problem with it
I'm sorry, I'm having trouble understanding the situation.