Dating struggles - I'm only attracted to straight guys (self.ftm)

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I transitioned ages ago and I'm recently out of a long term relationship. I've been trying to get back into dating, but even when I specify "masc for masc" all of the gay guys I meet are too feminine for my taste. I've been feeling a bit doomed, even sometimes questioning if I should have transitioned in the first place because it would be so easy to find an ideal partner if I hadn't, but the idea of being anyone but my true self is preposterous. Can any other guys relate to this? Any dating tips or specific dating app recommendations?

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[-] FoxyFerengi@lemm.ee 4 points 1 month ago

Somehow every man I've dated is more fem than me, I'm fairly androgynous in presentation and manner. And same, I will specify I'm only interested in masculine folk, only to have some very feminine people reach out. I sometimes suspect people think "I have a penis, so I'm masculine", and stop thinking there.

Online dating also seems to have fallen into a dumpster a few years ago. Everyone hates this advice, especially me, but it's worth it to engage with people in the hobbies you're interested in.

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