[-] chocosoldier 12 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

HRT be like 5 years later, still zero difference

it'll totally happen sooner or later, no you don't need to work on self-acceptance at all just take pills until the thing you want just comes to you and keep comparing yourself to extreme outliers until then

can we talk about how fucking toxic it is that the norm in trans communities is to build up a bunch of expectations around HRT? like I've almost lost someone because their result weren't aligning with the hype, and I have no small amount of baggage related to the same. we need to stop with the "hrt is literal magic" crap and start being honest.

[-] chocosoldier 14 points 4 months ago

“A year later, I drink less, go to bed earlier, and wear a ring that tells me how bad my sleep is,” he shared with Fortune.

Saved you a click.

[-] chocosoldier 13 points 4 months ago

ITT awful fucking reasons for "smartphone good". Fuck smartphones.

[-] chocosoldier 11 points 10 months ago

right? my first thought was pro-palestine, then i remembered my local closet trumper is obsessed with Star Wars and views himself as part of the Rebellion/Resistance and the other interpretation became clear. did we learn nothing from the obama-era liberal harry potter fetish?

[-] chocosoldier 13 points 10 months ago

it's a crapshoot, when i went to my local pride it was half cops carrying thin blue line flags and zero people gendered me right even after being corrected, and i only felt more alienated the longer i was there and the more people i talked to.

the gay bar i ended up in was even worse for trans acceptance, literally the first thing said to me as i walked in the door was "you're actually a guy right?" (i was dressed up as fem as i could manage with my time budget and assets), and i spent most of my time alternating between trying to escape a badly cross-dressed chaser and being shouted at by some drag queen that took offense to me walking past her so many times in my bids to escape that creep.

i honestly feel lucky for not winding up getting SA'd or worse, i've never been made to feel so uncomfortable before or since. all in all, it was pretty emotionally damaging, especially as i was only recently out and had just lost my entire social circle about it. i wish people wouldn't talk up "the community" to newly out folks because "the community" doesn't fucking exist, your local cliques do. and some of those are going to be filled with awful people, because being gay doesn't make you a decent human.

i'm not saying every city's pride is going to be like this, but if you're not familiar with the local scene definitely go with friends (actual friends, not some random gay person who says they want to be your friend so they can borrow a bunch of money and then ditch you at some random gay club and then block your number when you're not happy about it, the way i did), and bring a weapon.

tl;dr easily among the worst experiences of my life, and i'm never going again

[-] chocosoldier 12 points 1 year ago

Terrific advice in this thread, definitely start on flat ground (hell i started off practicing ollies in the grass) and wear helmet/pads (some people might give you shit about these; those people are idiots), BUT:

You absolutely will eat shit from time to time, and you have to accept this and be ready for it. I must have tumbled down the side of the bowl 50 times before I finally dropped in successfully, and it was worth every scrape and bruise.

Someone else said "learn to fall." I'll go one further and say if you have the means to do so then take a judo or parkour class - they will teach you how to minimize injury when you hit the ground.

Also, it's not a terrible idea to walk an area before you skate it, and note large cracks/gaps in the sidewalk, scattered bits of gravel, etc. so it isn't a suprise when/if you run over them.

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[-] chocosoldier 13 points 1 year ago

ITT people go way, way, waaaay out on a straw-grasping limb because they deeply want something to be true that obviously isn't.

This "AI is/can be conscious" crap is becoming religious.

[-] chocosoldier 14 points 1 year ago

"criming on people for being minorities should not be a crime in itself because muh freeze peach" lmao what an idiotic take

[-] chocosoldier 16 points 1 year ago

if you won't talk to me except through insta then you're not worth being friends with just fucking text me like a normal ass human.

[-] chocosoldier 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

political memes in 2024 be like:

  • octogenarian with laser eyes

  • reskinned voldemort vs dumbledore memes

  • recycled memes from 20 years ago that used to be about Al Gore

  • weird tribalist overreactions to said recycled memes because we stan billionaires as long as the correct people put on a show of hating them, apparently.

  • shitting on grossly underpaid workers because their industry forces them to rely on gratuity

  • im gigachad and you're wojak

[-] chocosoldier 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

i see a couple commenters in semi-relevant professions so i'd like to ask: when i die i don't want to be pickled and buried, nor belched into the atmosphere as a plume of carbon. (i like the idea of my remains being placed on a body farm where they can go back to nature but i don't really know where to start looking into a thing like that.) to whom and how can i donate my remains with assurance things like this won't happen?

[-] chocosoldier 11 points 1 year ago

After Cyberpunk I decided to be done paying $50+ to take up a quarter of my disk with a highly-acclaimed game that turns out to be the same old cookie-cutter 3D game with an expensive makeover. Anymore I mostly just play small indie games that friends recommend, and generally have a way better experience for it.

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