[-] bayesianbandit 17 points 3 weeks ago

I also think the point here is considerably more nuanced than non-passing=bad.

I read it as a critique of how trans people are stereotyped as non-passing. The fact of the matter is, a lot of us do pass and go about our daily lives, and the average cis person doesn't even realize. We assimilate more often than most would admit.

So while I don't think there should be moral value to passing per se, I also think it's pretty fucked up the way we're all sort of stereotyped as being the most visible until proven otherwise...

[-] bayesianbandit 6 points 1 month ago

I think Canada, Mexico, & EU should coordinate so that a tariff on any of us is a tariff on all of us. Hit back dollar for dollar on any tariff affecting any of our economies.

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by bayesianbandit to c/TransTechDIY

Hi all! I wanted to open the floor for a discussion that's been on my mind lately & perhaps hear from others who are also curious about this problem

I think in online trans communities traditionally there has been a social barrier (moderation) but not a technical barrier (hosting/admin/etc).

What that means is that most communities have been run by one or two very burnt out moderators who stepped up to solve a social issue and don't know how to deal with the more technical side. This has worked—just barely—so far.

However I think in the long run this won't be sustainable. A community no longer needs someone to overcome the social barrier but now also the technical barrier AND explain to those solving the social barrier stuff why it's trustworthy. So we need to come up with ways to support them.

I think what @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone is doing here is an invaluable piece of that puzzle. It gives those leaders a spot to land if they have nobody able to help them with self-hosting. But it's also scary for some communities, they don't know who to trust, and would benefit from a more tech-savvy trusted member in their group feeling empowered to learn, maybe set up a server themselves, evangelize a bit, offer reassurance they're committed to ensuring if blahaj goes down the community won't be screwed.

Something else I've noticed is that most communities do not have self-hosted landing pages either. Like a website that their community members can bookmark in case their community goes dark, where the admins can post information about where to meet up online next time. What I've been saying as a message is "yes most members won't bother bookmarking it, but a few will, and those users will be conscientious members who are more likely to spread the word so you limit your losses."

I think it could perhaps be a good project to work on, say, a template for a self-hosted page with a whole bunch of trans self-hosted resources, trans fediverse communities, landing pages for other communities, etc. collated so a community admin can copy-paste. It might encourage more of their members to bookmark it and begin using those resources casually. Of course, reaching out to the communities you are apart of outside the fediverse and offering to help sort out hosting a landing page is also a great asset especially if you're trusted/respected by the mods of those communities.

Anyway, these are all just thoughts at the moment, please feel free to chime in!

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submitted 1 month ago by bayesianbandit to c/TransTechDIY

Someone in my network had the following question I don't know how to help them with and neither does anyone in our group:

tech friends! can anyone explain to my layman ass what a “MIC link” is gut check is that it’s a site that can only be accessed w/ a secure browser like TOR, but i am truly unsure is that, like, a site that can only be accessed thru a browser like TOR or

If anyone thinks they might have an idea what it is and could explain in simple-ish terms that'd be a big help and could perhaps be collated to share with others in the future!

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TransTechDIY: A concept (self.TransTechDIY)
submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by bayesianbandit to c/TransTechDIY

The premise is simple: we're all better off in a world where trans people know how to build our own technologies to suit the needs of our communities. Trans people are better off when we are well-connected and are able to DIY. And it's now more than ever important for us to learn how to DIY our tech the same way so many of us have DIY'd our hormones.

The most immediate threat I think many online trans communities are currently facing is deplatforming. Many have been lulled into a sense of dependency by large tech companies. Self-hosting seems like all too overwhelming, the fediverse seems overwhelming, the UIs are overwhelming, archiving data seems overwhelming, starting from scratch and building communities on new instances seems overwhelming, helping users who are less tech literate migrate to safe platforms seems overwhelming.

I would like to suggest this is a problem we can resolve. I think we could start small, and we could just share with each other various problems we see in our communities when it comes to technology—barriers to entry, designs that simply do not work, etc.—and the solutions we've found to help resolve them for each other.

Alternatively, if you're having a problem or facing resistance getting people onboarded in your communities—post about it! Let's have a chat. Maybe someone knows a matrix room you should be apart of. Maybe someone has dealt with a particular type of user apathy in a Discord they've modded & can provide some hard won lessons learned.

In the long run, I think this information could be collated into a wiki resource of sorts. Of course not trying to replace the many many resources out there for learning individual technologies. But more like a landing page for the trans community to get started fixing common problems.

However, I am of course still working on learning myself, so I think if this community grows it will be a function of who shows up and where things go.

Feel free to discuss or share feedback, it's just an idea at this point.

[-] bayesianbandit 7 points 1 month ago

Nice to see the EU joining in

[-] bayesianbandit 8 points 1 month ago

This is so encouraging imo thank you

[-] bayesianbandit 7 points 1 month ago

Yes this was basically exactly what I was thinking! It's very reassuring to hear that could be possible in the real world and not just in my head :D

[-] bayesianbandit 6 points 1 month ago

Okay that's rad. I'd been privately thinking of something similar to that myself but I'm new to the fediverse and didn't know whether it was possible. If it's like what I'm thinking you're suggesting that would solve a HUGE issue in our community for balancing visibility (to help others and give information) with privacy (to support each other and avoid bigots). Centralized social media/messaging platforms have never prioritized this need in their design so we are always switching between apps to fulfill either function.

[-] bayesianbandit 6 points 1 month ago

Thanks! She’s submitted an application to join blahaj and I’ve also pointed her to this post

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by bayesianbandit to c/fedibridge@lemmy.dbzer0.com

Cross posting this here for visibility as it's easy to not see the edit. They are adding thoughts and resources to the post as they evolve so maybe keep an eye out for future edits.

I think the questions they have are very reasonable & they have welcomed cis people to discuss on the post (but not elsewhere on the subreddit)

I'm new to Lemmy and doing what I can. Long time member of the subreddit. Maybe some of you all are better than me at discussing these topics with them?

Thank you all for your help so far 🫶

[-] bayesianbandit 8 points 1 month ago

Big changes! HRT and surgeries are often inflection points for breakups. Sounds like you’re on the right track. Breakups are hard during any time let alone during second puberty. Good luck 🫶

[-] bayesianbandit 11 points 1 month ago

I remember that feeling so clearly. Mood boost is one of the earliest benefits of HRT, or at least it was for me. Congrats!

Also for what it's worth, I could never really date all that much before hormones. A month into HRT I had a cute little fling and later that year I met my boyfriend. 5 years and going strong.

[-] bayesianbandit 7 points 1 month ago

Do you know who I would even talk to in order to find out if this instance is comfortable hosting them? In the long run I am working on setting up my own server but that won’t help if the sub is banned tomorrow for example

[-] bayesianbandit 6 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I have talked to the mod at Transgender_Surgeries and the vibe is they’ve worked tirelessly for years doing a thankless job and are too burned out but are open to others taking the lead—probably more likely they would add it to a list of resources if someone else takes the lead on this

I agree with getting off of simply mirroring Reddit content but I think we need a bridge in order to get people posting here. Like if I reply with helpful info here then people have follow up questions maybe they’ll ask me here instead of there type of thing & slowly migrate over

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by bayesianbandit to c/main

Hi all,

I’m a Reddit refugee and I’m wondering if we could consider mirroring subs like r/Transgender_Surgeries, r/TransDIY and r/estrogel here (or if not maybe another instance)

If you’re not aware Reddit has made it clear they will probably deploy tools to shut these subreddits down in the nearish future. This has lead us to start looking elsewhere and personally I’m in favour of getting people into the fediverse.

It seems obvious to me the main issue we have with getting people onto the fediverse is momentum. In light of that do you think that we could mirror some of the content from those subs here? Maybe also if we have a bot like this one to seed the content https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/21662525

I for one would be happy to start encouraging people to move here by regularly posting my responses to people’s questions on here with info I know on Lemmy and then linking to my response in the subreddit so they take a peek.

I’ve been researching surgeries for well over half a decade by now and have some surgeries myself so I think people will come if people like me start putting valuable content here.

My issue here is I’m new to the fediverse and probably not the best to take something like this up. I also am working on learning how to set up my own server for the first time and ultimately help others in my network around the world do the same so idk if I’m the best to lead that type of initiative.

It does seem we need someone though and the leader of the Transgender_Surgeries subreddit is too burned out to migrate it (understandably so)

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