[-] Vibi 52 points 3 weeks ago

Recently...they've kind of just adopted me. I'm incredibly shy, but I had been going to a little local coffee shop (just to get out of the house) and always tried to be kind and engage with the people working there when they would talk with me. I had a few really emotional weeks, and one of the owners picked up on it. She handed me a note with her number, and let me know I could always talk with her. She ended up inviting me to a little Halloween pumpkin painting night with some of her friends, and I connected with them super well! Now they invite me out to little activities, food, movie nights, etc.

That's kind of how I've meant most of the friends I've had- be kind, be interested, and be present! People get more comfortable the more they see you around, so even if you're a little shy or awkward, someone might extend a hand and bring you into their circle.

[-] Vibi 166 points 1 month ago

It could be that Gemini was unsettled by the user's research about elder abuse, or simply tired of doing its homework.

That's... not how these work. Even if they were capable of feeling unsettled, that's kind of a huge leap from a true or false question.

[-] Vibi 14 points 1 month ago

I have a fast rate of friendship and comfort decay. If I can interact with my friends regularly throughout the week I feel like my life absolutely glows, but if people start canceling or life just gets too busy, the moments I do get to spend with them starts feeling forced and awkward. Some people seem to thrive interacting with their friends occasionally or once every week or two, but I turtle shell super fast once regularly interactions stop.

[-] Vibi 12 points 1 month ago

You'll find that in queer culture, there's not just top/bottom but a wide spectrum to define or describe preferences; I'm sure this all also applies to the BDSM world as well. There's a variety of tops and bottoms and preferences like Bambi lesbians who don't want sexual dynamics beyond cuddling and kissing.

[-] Vibi 34 points 3 months ago

The interview process is what is causing me the most anxiety right now. Lost my job at the end of June, and I KNOW I need to be looking harder, but I'm just dreading the whole interview process. I've been procrastinating like crazy...I just don't want to relearn a whole culture of a new team; it's so mentally draining. 12 years somewhere and the idea that I have to start all over again...๐Ÿ˜ญ

[-] Vibi 12 points 3 months ago

Same... It's like 20 minutes of focus and then I need a nap ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ When I was younger, I'd just inhale energy drinks, but the crashes just kept coming faster and faster.

[-] Vibi 14 points 4 months ago

Depends where you live! There's weekly/monthly cannabis events where I'm at. I've made some great friends at them!

[-] Vibi 13 points 4 months ago

Decent! Only 5 months on HRT and see and feel plenty of change. Really hoping certain muscles start to decrease in size - primarily shoulders and lats. All the tops I buy fit awkwardly ๐Ÿ˜ž I was also hoping my metabolism would slow down slightly and allow me to keep some fat, but my body has always liked staying lean... After so many years of bodybuilding, I'm just not in a place mentally to start eating like crazy again to help with weight gain; it's liberating to eat what and when I want. Dressing more androgenous and getting plenty of compliments on my outfits, though I consider them a compromise while my body composition adjusts. I feel really good about myself, and that's a big first for me!

[-] Vibi 11 points 4 months ago

That has been my experience as well! Prepaid for 6 sessions so I set my expectations around that. Two weeks after my first, one morning ~90% of my hair wiped right off during my skincare routine. I was sooo excited! I seem to just have a few small active patches left which I'm hoping the second session helps with. Definitely putting money down for my legs and arms next time I go.

[-] Vibi 22 points 4 months ago

The thing I want natively is a built-in way to control volume per tab- not just mute, not through a plugin... Just a simple volume slider that works.

[-] Vibi 27 points 4 months ago

I don't even understand what's being asked. Women can be gay, so the title itself is baffling. Implying that men wearing pink or any type of physical presentation implies anything about someone's sexuality is just weird. Yes, as society moves past its weird obsessions about people's sexuality, we'll see more of every type of couple and relationship dynamics.

[-] Vibi 13 points 4 months ago

Get into something - hyperfixate, become part of community, wake up one day with zero interest in thing, become lonely as you no longer enjoy thing with other people, cry, find new thing and repeat... Look back and realize you have no foundation other than this cycle- now too traumatized to get into anything new and feel completely gray.

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