I received my diagnosis through Prosper Health. I'm on medi-cal and unfortunately had to pay out of pocket, but I believe it was worth it ($950). It was 3 online sessions - 2 for assessment and 1 to go over their diagnosis, reasoning, and next step options. The doctor assessing me was so kind and patient, and the assessment and results were very well presented.

At the end you're given a copy of their assessment (many pages which detail how your answers to their questions tie into their diagnosis), a simple one page official diagnosis that you can provide to employers, other healthcare providers, or resources that might need one, and a signed note that you can give to employers asking for certain accommodations.

Part of their process is providing the name and email of two people in the person's life who will be sent a questionnaire that asks them questions relating to autism. You are supposed to allow them to answer the questions without telling them what it's for to avoid bias. Ideally they request one person who has known them since childhood and another who is close to them now.

First point- are you doing monotherapy or are you also on an anti-angrogen? Taking something like spiro will help suppress testosterone which will help your body with its feminization. Does your provider require blood work to test your levels? I have to get blood work done ever 6 months to make sure I'm in the right place (actually had to up my initial dose as my estrogen levels suddenly crashed a year in)

The family dynamic will very much depend on overall safety. I'm not a parent and not interested in being one, so my opinion is coming from a different place. You are your own person, and I'd honestly put distance between my mom and I if she was unsupportive. I wouldn't allow her to be in my life and risk my children being exposed to her views. As for other children... you can't control them, but you can be a guide to your children on how to handle disgusting behavior and language. I think that's part of being a parent. I think it's important for your children to see it's okay to be the person they want to be. Constantly swapping on them might create a feeling that they need to constantly mask to fit in.

Documentation will depend on your location. I would suggest seeing if there's local lgbtq resource or support centers that may information for your particular country/area. There will have been others who have transitioned and been through the process.

Voice training takes time🩷 I realized early on that listening to women in the real world (not online or content) allowed me to be more comfortable with my voice. I would focus more on inflection, intonation, and tilt. Here's a guide that helped me understand what makes up a voice and what I could work on that wasn't just focusing on pitch. https://www.undeadvoice.com/guide. They also have a free class which is a great place to start!

Name- it was suggested in another thread to not be shy about trying out different ones! You don't need to settle on one immediately. You can be honest that you're seeing what feels right. See how you feel introducing and being addressed with different names. I'm sure you'll find one that feels like you 🩷

Facial hair- laser or electrolysis. IPL is not going to be effective, will take forever to work (if it does), and carries certain risks when being used on faces like ours. I went the laser route and am happy with my results. I have and grays on my chin that I might eventually get removed through electrolysis. Trimming/shaving grays doesn't lead to shadow for me, so I'm not too bothered by them. I might also get any stray hairs that eventually start growing in handled with electrolysis.

As far as razer burn - how's your skincare routine? Shaving routine? Do you have an exfoliant (not a physical one -a serum or toner)? As your skin and hair softens this should also help. I use a Philips Norelco OneBlade for any upkeep - cuts super close and doesn't irritate my skin like a razor.

Ummm both to a degree! You should shine as you and the right people will gravitate to you 🩷 I meant my gf through Discord connecting over a game we both played... Which is still unbelievable to me since I'm incredibly shy (and audhd) and rarely try to connect with new people. For well over a decade I didn't make any new friends outside of one or two through another friend. Since transitioning, I've made a handful of new friends! Just be you, be patient, and share your light with others 🌟

I bought my tucking underwear from tcomfits. They've even sent me free samples for upcoming products over the last year! They are functionally amazing, but not necessarily the cutest. For my bras, to save money while I figured out what worked for me, I purchased different brands and types from Nordstrom Rack.

I super recommend using this calculator for bra sizing. They even have a setting for transfems which was exactly what I needed as other methods of measuring weren't really connecting me with the right bras https://www.abrathatfits.org/calculator.php

One piece at a time 🩷 I personally find shopping for an aesthetic makes things a bit easier than shopping just generally or for trends/seasons. When you start settling into a look, you'll find all your clothing matches and can be swapped around for different co-ords!

Soooo much appreciation for this 🩷 I think I'll forever mentally twitch when people use dude, man, mate, bro, etc. towards me. I totally know it's done in a gender neutral way, but I still feel a small pang in my heart.

Honestly so lucky that they had all those laser hair removal sessions a year before the world ended 🤭

So true.. I'm super shy and introverted. My extroverted friends who essentially adopted me are the brightest parts of my life. They've allowed me to experience things I never would have and are incredibly patient and understanding when I need me time.

Just a reminder that Tidal is amazing, has higher quality audio, a real shuffle, daily playlists, doesn't shove podcasts in your face, pays artists more, and provides ways to import your playlists over 🩷 I also listen to some pretty obscure music and haven't had issues not finding songs.

Sooo true! Every friend I have that has a partner/so has or is playing BG3 together. I love hearing them talk about their adventures and always giggle when they get to the romantic side of things - never any jealousy, just cheering each other on 🤭

Recently...they've kind of just adopted me. I'm incredibly shy, but I had been going to a little local coffee shop (just to get out of the house) and always tried to be kind and engage with the people working there when they would talk with me. I had a few really emotional weeks, and one of the owners picked up on it. She handed me a note with her number, and let me know I could always talk with her. She ended up inviting me to a little Halloween pumpkin painting night with some of her friends, and I connected with them super well! Now they invite me out to little activities, food, movie nights, etc.

That's kind of how I've meant most of the friends I've had- be kind, be interested, and be present! People get more comfortable the more they see you around, so even if you're a little shy or awkward, someone might extend a hand and bring you into their circle.

It could be that Gemini was unsettled by the user's research about elder abuse, or simply tired of doing its homework.

That's... not how these work. Even if they were capable of feeling unsettled, that's kind of a huge leap from a true or false question.