Ill be honest, i agree that therapy may be needed, here.

Ive tried this with them. It doesnt work.

Im not a therapist, so take this with a grain of salt, but this is concerning to hear for me. It gives me the impression you might be closed off to your role in the conflict and the effort your spouse is putting in to understand your side (assuming there is effort to talk in any way). Talking together as a couple isnt a "Im trying", its a "We're trying." "We" coming from the recognition that both sides are trying to understand the other even if resolution hasnt been found yet. Dont approach it as a "talk with them", theyre not a dependent that needs a lecture, but rather as a "talk together" where both sides are actively heard and recognized regardless of if the other agrees. The goal is to understand the other, not necessarily to make your side heard. Once you both understand the other persons perspective, it becomes easier to find the disconnect or middle ground.

Declaring "it doesnt work" isnt trying to understand the other, its shutting things down and wont solve anything anytime soon.

Oh man, i dont know if i could eat a pb&j on whole wheat. My go to is usually the classic white bread or toasted sour dough if im feeling fancy.

So...i hate to add to it...but my husband is mildly autistic and we've had this exact conflict with gift giving early in our marriage.

He sees the act of gift giving very logically and practically, which is perfectly fine, but i didnt really understand this early on in our relationship. We eventually sat down, talked about how we each felt, and it clicked that we had a disconnect on the social/emotional layer of gift giving. I saw and felt that gift giving was more of an act of showing the other person they crossed your mind; a display of emotion. On the other hand, my husband saw and felt gift giving was more about making sure the item is exactly what the other person wants, including if that item is "nothing"; logical, literal, and practical.

Sit down together and talk. Use "I" statements, keep calm voices, and dont interrupt. The goal is to express how you feel, listen to how they feel, and work together to help each other understand both perspectives.

I uninstalled the app years ago and still see this in the play store.

As an Americam who was subjected to the pledge in highschool, I thought the same and refused to stand for it starting in middle school. The school cant force you to do the pledge of allegiance, but they dont exactly tell students....or teachers.

Every school year id run into a teacher who took sitting during the pledge to be the same as taking a dump on the flag and send me to the front office only for them to send me right back to class because im within my rights to sit. One teacher in particular angrily "lectured" me, a 16 year old, about how her husband served over seas and me sitting is the same as telling him to get fucked more or less. By my junior year the office staff started making excuses as to why i needed to stand like "teachers check dress code during the pledge" or "they check attendance", but I continued to sit anyway since these excuses were always bullshit.

In the arms of an angel....

second this. That book really helped me understand wtf happened during my childhood and gain a sense of identity I had never felt before.

Reminds me of a notice put on our old apartment door about their plans to paint.

Shit, I forgot to include on my resume that 1 week I worked at dominos where I received no training and spent the entire time either being following around by the driver while he rambled on about conspiracy theories, erasing the chalkboard nipples someone kept drawing on the dining room chalkboard, or both. Guess my employer should fire me from my IT job now. /s

That doesnt seem terrible to me, but I also married someone who pours orange juice on their cereal. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

Theyre names so the latin alphabet form would be the translation, more or less.

Пятницкiй, Скиталецъ, М. Горький, Найденовъ, Л. Андреев, Шаляпинъ, Бунинъ, Телешевъ, Чирико

Would be...

Pyatnitsky, Skitalets, M. Horky (possibly gorky?), Naydenov, L. Andreev, Shalyapin, Bunin, Teleshev, Chiriko.

(Note, im a native english speaker studing to speak Ukrainian)