My brother in Christ you're posting in a trans community

I can hit the button for minutes and still end up getting piss on my skirt 💀

Feel like Gardevoir canonically has a giant fucking cock so it makes sense.

I hadn't heard of the site until I saw this headline, it just made me laugh

Ironically, started loving muscle mommies after I came out as trans

White people just aren't used to eating beans because it lacks the taste of suffering, so anytime they eat beans they shit their pants

Ada was handling everything really well. But yeah, Hexbear used to be Chapo, they had to make the migration to Lemmy because they were really bad about accidentally brigading shit and got banned from Reddit for it. Ada (and also me) gave them a bigger pass than they deserve instance wide.

Posting a blacked out screenshot and saying "Ada made me do it" is just weird. You didn't even leave a description. All we see is that you got a DM and there are a bunch of scribbles over it, this is a nothing burger. It being pinned to the top of the community is weird. If you had posted the actual screenshot and made an actual point to what they said and didn't use slurs that insult my child, I'd feel a tad different. But as it stands, this really feels like drama seeking behavior. There is no argument being made, it's just directing people towards Hexbear.

This is the kind of thing that Chapo got banned from Reddit over, the exact event that created Hexbear. If you don't like Hexbear, that's fine. They are generally drama starters, I don't support defederation but I understand why it's being talked about. But you can't call their users slurs, provide no context to what they said, and expect anybody in what is a safe space to be okay with it. It is literally the same thing that makes us discuss defederation with Hexbear, except they don't use slurs.

This isn't your community

Someone asked if a straight guy would fuck a trans man, straight guy responded by saying he'd be down to fuck a trans man if they hadn't transitioned yet. In a later comment he said he was attracted to post op trans women and pre op trans men. It wasn't aggressive transphobia, but grouping trans people by their genitals in a space like this isn't going to be appreciated.

The real problem came with the thread the mod posted. If I didn't know better, I'd assume it was a baitpost. Mod made the post then quickly disappeared after people in the new thread started their "I'm an ally, BUT..." comments. Original commenter said he can't be friends with trans women because they all have chips on their shoulders. Someone said trans people are the Karens of the LGBT community and weren't wanted. Just a lot of shit that shouldn't be on an instance that is literally a trans safe space.

Someone who fetishizes trans people. You find trans people hot? That's totally fine, you can have preferences. But grouping post op trans women and pre op trans men sexually is saying that they're being viewed as women regardless of their identity.

If you wanna fuck a trans person, it should be because you're attracted to them. Maybe you like boobs and penis together and that's fine. Maybe you like a masculine chest and a vagina. You can be attracted to a certain intersection, even if that intersection is a straight one. But fucking them because they're trans and exotic is chasing. If you like women, fuck trans women. If you like men, fuck trans men. But don't just randomly flip them around like there's no difference to you.

That one thread of the dude saying he isn't attracted to post-op trans men because he likes tits and the comment section that is just "trans people are too sensitive". If you don't wanna date trans people it's fine. But being like "oh nooo, your boobs are gonna go away" is a joke

I was gonna keep lurking Reddit until Sync shut down, now I'm on Lemmy. Took me a little bit to figure the platform out tbh, having third party apps for it now seems to be great.