[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

The first thing I'll say is this: it's worth it. If you want HRT, it's worth the awkwardness. Besides that for me personally, there were a couple notable things. For a couple years at the start of my transition, I had essentially no libedo (having previously had a high one) because my testosterone levels dropped too low. Mine was below detectable levels, whereas about 0.8-0.9 was a more reasonable target for me. That is to say, watch out for low energy and libedo, women need testosterone too.

Aside from that, I wouldn't say I've had to "relearn" anything, but it has changed my relationship with my body. I like my body more than ever, and certain areas are more sensitive to stimulation than they were before. It's great, I have whole new areas of my body I can enjoy in bed. On the other hand, as the dysphoria around the rest of my body has improved, my dysphoria around genitals has become more pronounced. It's manageable, it's something I had to learn to navigate and communicate to partners. HRT also commonly causes ED, but that's nothing some Viagra can't fix.

It also didn't change my interests (although they continued to develop), but it did change the quality of my attraction. Before it was aggressive when I was turned on, now it has a more slow burning desire to it. I want a build up and some foreplay leading in to it. It's not a change in interest or skill, but you could call it a shift if you like.

Also I look way hotter as a woman than I ever did as a man, so jot that down.

[-] EmilyIsTrans 19 points 2 months ago

I've experienced both sides, and there is definitely a different quality to the attraction and horny-ness. It's hard to put my finger on or describe in a way that isn't a cliche like "aggressive" and "raw". It's less romantic? It fills your mind a little, it's impulsive, it doesn't have the same yearning. At least for me.

For what it's worth I prefer my attraction and sex now as a woman. Not to act as an internet doctor, but I definitely felt a bit like you when my testosterone was too low. All women have testosterone and having the wrong amount can affect sexual desire - it might be worth having yours checked.

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 2 months ago

The world does not revolve around the US and the Epstein files

[-] EmilyIsTrans 19 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Ok, first up the players: Labor is the major centre-left party led by Anthony Albanese, Liberals are the centre-right (think economically liberal) led by Peter Dutton, Nationals are right wing, Greens are left wing, and there are a handful of "teal" independents who are mostly politically centre women with an environmental focused. The Liberals and Nationals make up the Coalition and essentially act as one insane party with the Libs at the helm, so you can mostly treat them interchangably.

Labor won the last federal election in 2022 by a slim majority (2 seats), but the Coalition lost in one of the worst defeats in our history. The Liberals were hit the hardest, losing 19 seats, putting them at their lowest representation since their formation in 1944. They were in power since 2013 and lost for a lot of reasons, but a major one was that Prime Minister Scott Morrison was rightfully loathed.

Since the last election, the Coalition has been steadily growing in popularity due to the same reasons other non-incumbents have globally (ui.e., inflation, high energy prices, etc). Add to that a (mostly true) perception that the government was doing too little to fix problems like our crumbling healthcare system wasn't helping.

Finally the election is announced in late March (our elections aren't fixed) and the parties start campaigning. Dutton, the Liberal leader, looks like he is going to win a majority at this early point. The following things happen:

  • Labor announces and immediately implements a universal tax cut, Dutton announces he will repeal it and replace it with a cut on fuel prices.
  • Labors announces a major initiative to improve bulk billed healthcare (bulk billed = free to the patient), which Dutton immediately matches. Labor runs a major attack campaign claiming that he cannot be trusted, since last time his party was in power they tried to destroy bulk billing among other things.
  • Dutton announces a cut of 41,000 jobs to the public service, a substantial portion. He faces significant backlash as people worry it will result in degraded frontline services, remembering the issues with veterans affairs and Medicare last time they were in. The 41,000 he wants to cut is how much the public service had grown since 2022, so this seems like a reasonable worry. He "clarifies" that no frontline workers will be cut. He also adds that the cuts will be through attrition, not firing. Following continued backlash, he "clarifies" that he always meant the cuts were to come from Canberra, the capital. This is a mathematical impossibility, as he would have to gut the upper ranks of every department and probably defense to achieve that number.
  • He announced an end to work from home for all public servants. This is bad for the Liberals, because they've had massive problems with women in the past (including a woman allegedly raped in a ministers office and subsequently an alleged cover up), and people quickly pointed out that the policy would disproportionately affects women, who are unfortunately still expected to bear most of the burden of childcare. Banning working from home prevents them from holding down many jobs. Dutton responds, typically out of touch, that women can job share. He then "clarifies" he only meant it to apply to Canberra, then changes his mind about the policy completely.
  • He rejected Labor's renewable energy transition and instead proposes a transition to Nuclear. No industry group except the one they hired thinks this is realistic, a good option, or feasible. Unrealistically short time-frames, bad assumptions, etc are used to make it look good on paper. Finally someone points out that the places they plan to put the plants don't have enough water.
  • Just yesterday, on the eve of the election, they announced their budget they intend to introduce if they win shows a budget deficit worse than Labor's during the next term, but magically improving after that. This exact tactic worked in 2013 but isn't now.
  • Other minor things. They keep crashing campaign trucks into polling locations. Dutton has zero charisma and looks creepy, and was a Queensland cop (that's really bad, they're as corrupt as the worst American cop).
  • Also a Liberal Senate candidate for this election personally tried to induct me into a culty MLM a few years back so fuck them specifically.

This has resulted in polls gradually sliding for the Coalition to the point that it now looks like they will lose even more seats this election and Labor might even gain one. Dutton may lose his own seat. It looks like the teals may pick up another member, with the Greens and fringe right wing parties staying about the same.

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 7 months ago

Mr President, a second signal chat has hit the buildings

[-] EmilyIsTrans 19 points 9 months ago

What about trans women who transitioned before puberty? What about cis or intersex women with elevated levels of testosterone? What about sports where it has been shown that after a long enough period of medical transition trans people have no significant advantage over their cis counterparts?

You appeal to science yet fail to cite a single source, so let me do it for you:

An individual's sex does not determine their success or failure at any athletic event despite the high level of competition. This can be demonstrated when looking at not average outcomes, but the level of overlap among outcomes... While sex differences do develop following puberty, many of the sex differences are reduced, if not erased, over time by gender affirming hormone therapy.

[-] EmilyIsTrans 17 points 10 months ago

Children will die as a result of this "pause", not that they care

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 1 year ago

That's fraud. The 5 minute business discussion can be written off, the remaining (let's say) 55 minutes cannot. Maybe it differs where you live, but where I do only travel between work destinations can be written off, so home to work doesn't count. Buying supplies for the office is a normal and valid expense, taking them home is theft and/or taxable

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 2 years ago

I'm not sure if mine changed, but I gave off such strong queer vibes that everyone has assumed I was bi or gay since I started high school. I could tell that as well, but not in a cohesive way that I could label, so I just kinda settled on bi.

Anyway I realised I was trans and almost completely gay for women (plus I never had a particular genitals preference). So I guess people were right, just in the wrong direction!

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Starting Estrogen had the same effect on depression for me, I'm finally looking to actually get off them! Also, very unexpectedly, I've apparently started emoting more and putting more expression into my voice. I've always spoke with a monotone, so I was very surprised at the development.

Also yeah guys are sweaty and stinky lol

[-] EmilyIsTrans 19 points 2 years ago

I hope this is indicative that the push by politicians to instigate a culture war over us is failing to gain support

[-] EmilyIsTrans 18 points 2 years ago

It's Australia. We have a very heavy alcohol tax on everything except wine.

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